To not feel like kissing when angry?

[Dalrymps]

dh comes home for lunch every day. Some days, as couples do we might have a disagreement or a little argument about every day things.

Anyway, he always kisses me before he goes back to work which is lovely..However, on the occasions we have argued I feel too wound up and angry to want to kiss him and feel it's not sincere as I don't really want to iyswim.

He geta offended by this but I don't want to kiss when I genuinely don't feel like it. I'm not doing it to punish him or anything like that, I just don't feel all loving and well, kissy, not that that's a word!

AIBU?

YABU

I think it's adorable that he still wants to kiss you when you're cross. And how guilty would you feel if that was the last time you ever saw him. He may go out that door and never come back.

What's that phrase ...'never go to sleep on an argument.'

Yeah I know it's adorable and you're right, we do try to never go to sleep on an argument.

Hadn't thought about how if feel if he didn't come back

I just feel it's an angry kiss rather than a loving one and not enjoyable iyswim?

After we've had a row and the atmosphere is a little frosty I've found that the use of a tazar makes one's partner compliant enough for a kiss to be safely planted..

YADNBU.

I wouldn't want to kiss either when I'm cross with my BF. I'd need time to chill and get over it.

It's unfair of him to expect a kiss if he's been making you angry. A kiss would be like a positiev reinforcement that he can upset you again next lunch time.

Ginger that's exactly it, I just need to chill out a bit first before I feel like a kiss.

It's not just him making me feel bad, it's equal, two sided arguments I'm talking about..

The kiss is just a peck on the lips.. I'm not sure it's a positive reinforcement cause it's not like he's behaving bad ad I'm behaving nicely it's just a general argument.

It's more like he just wants to give me a kiss goodbye before he goes to show his love and cause we'll miss each other.

Maybe I'm just a grumpy cow

Sorry, my first sentence was for Toni..

Ginger

I think it's great that he's willing to kiss you even when you're a grumpy cow

Maybe wanting a kiss is him needing some reassurance that you still love him and are not going to pack your bags and leave him. Most men are expecting rejection I think.

Piglet

Animation - good point, not thought of that although we've been together 8 years and married 6 with 2 ds's so I'm not likey to reject him

I know what you mean though, if I'm angry or upset with DH because of something he's said or done and he asks me for a kiss/cuddle, I feel like, well, no, I'm not in the mood for affection and you can't just kiss me and pretend you didn't piss me off in the first place.

Yeah that's what it's like MissP.

Thanks for the snot by the way, I'm no longer angry and therefor accept it graciously

snot?! Bloody iPhone! I do NOT accept any snot graciously!

I knew what you meant.

I always try and kiss my hubby before work even if we have had a fight. It was one of those sayings when we first got together that someone said to me about never leaving angry as you never know if you will see each other again... Abit bleugh but i did it and it has stuck, he does the same too.

Never sleep on an arguement too was another one i was told but that one doesn't work.... Hubby is a grouch and can sulk for days so i just ignore him...

Yeah we have mostly managed the never go to bed on an argument thing. Only ever not managed that once or twice when one of us has accidentally fallen asleep before making up..