to feel that dd is being left out...

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Moved to a new house a couple of months ago. Next door neighbour was lovely at first and was keen for our dd's to be friend. Her dd has a disability, and my dd jokingly called her weird.... as she would any of her other friends. The kids were okay about it , it was said in fun etc but next door neighbour has now decided she doesn't like my dd.
So when her dd invited to mines party no present, wont let her dd play with mine any more and now keeps inviting all neighbourhood kds to her back garden and excluding mine....
So obviously my dd feels hurt, left out etc and I am furious.... i know i should turn the other cheek but I do feel really annoyed!
What do you think?

Your poor neighbours DD, having her mum hoiking it about that she can't play with a girl because she called her weird, she must be embarrassed beyond belief.

I wouldn't want to have anything to do with the mum, I can understand her being sensitive, but after apologies and explanations and she's still being weird with you??

Just leave her to it and let your DD play with the girl when they come across each other, which they're bound to do if they live close by.

Your main gripe is that your daughter is missing out on invites when she is inviting the rest of the local children.
She is hurt because she is missing out on these play dates not because she is missing the girl.
Your daughter needs to make other friends rather than looking on in envy on the group she has been excluded from.

I hope ^ comes across ok as i tried to word it so not to offend.

Why did she say she was weird? I know she said it jokingly but what did she mean by it?

Did you go to the child's parents and explain that she hadn't meant it nastily?