What shall I say to these mums? Party invitations

[kitten84]

DS is 6 at the weekend and we are having a party ans have invited 14 children. Only 7 have replied even though we specified numbers needed last week. DS is a little highly strung and every time my phone went was asking if it was a reply. Feeling really sad for son and disappointed with other parents. Could not speak to them before today as do not have their phone numbers.
Fortunately venue has been helpful and has allowed me to confirm and pay on the day.
WWYD/say?

I would just approach them at pickup/drop off time and ask if their child has taken the invite home and if they'll be attending. When my DD took her invitations to school a few got lost or put in wrong bookbags so maybe this is the case here?

I normally just walk up to them and say "hi just wondered if your child got the invite to X's party and if they were coming!"

I had one mum ask why I'd not replied and said my blank expression said it all. I then found the invite in a pocket of his bag which I never used but the childminder did.

Yes, wander up to them in the playground and casually ask as Groovee has suggested. It is stressful as the organiser not to have replies (happens to us all, I had to do the same with DS's party venue with places). But you have to not let it show in case the person in question

a) has not received the invite
b) has had some difficult circumstances going on
or
c) is just a bit scatty!

Thank you. That was what I had in mind too. I know the children received invites as ds gave them out in person. However, it is of course possible parents have not seen them.

If my DH is home from work and does the school run, I get no letters, they are bunged under the pram and forgotten about.

My DS was supposed to dress up a few weeks ago, as a pirate, he was ever so upset when I sent him in, with his uniform on

Approach the mums, honestly, some may have just as useless husbands as mine, and have not read the invite

I agree, if you know the parents just ask.

Ds went to a part just befpore Easter that I hadn't replied to, the reason being my dad picked him up from school the day the invite went out and it got lost somewhere at their house.

Dd missed a party that she would have loved (theatre trip) becasue she put the invite in her tray at school and forgot to bring it home.

Thank yuo everyone.

Definitely ask - replying can also be a cultural thing - dd had 6th party (luckily at a big softplay that did not need exact numbers and charged MDMA flat rate) and we invited the whole year but only half replied - I'd assumed the non-replies weren't coming, but 15 extras turned up on the night, in beautiful party dresses and armed with presents (dd is at catholic faith school and all the non replies who showed were Italian/Spanish/African eastern churches so I can only assume it must be cultural that if you're invited to a party you reply if you're not coming rather than are - I had put RSVP on th invitations too but they still didn't).

Plus yes afterwards found a few of them had got lost in trays bags dhs etc - the dcs are too little at 6 to realise their parents need to know for logistics, they just assumed they would go and then were upset to miss it.

Charged me a flat rate...! Damn autocorrect

(why on earth does autocorrect think I need to type MDMA anyway?!)

I was wondering

Dunno but MDMA is ecstacy :o

I know!!!! It wasn't that sort of party, honest, am not Sadie frost in rl...