to not give eighteen year olds anything for easter?

[Tortington]

the title is phrased rather provocatively as that is not really how this post goes...

my PIL came down for eater and stayed with my bil

i have three kids - two at home - twins aged eighteen.

they have two kids 17 and 9. we went round yesterday and gave eggs. mil, fil and the cousins all got one.

they told me that they don't buy eggs now that the twins are classed as adults.

i thought that was petty - for the sake of a couple of quid.

and i can't see myself not buying the 17 yr old an egg next year as i give her brother an egg - just becuase she is eighteen.

what say you mumsnet?

I think they're being incredibly tight. If it's a huge family and that's the deal, then that's the deal and everyone knows it - but when you are such a small family and they are buying eggs for the younger ones, it's just tight.

I'm nearly 20 and still get Easter Eggs, Advent Calendars and Christmas Stockings [bublush] I don't even live at home.

DP's Mum is a grandmother to 23 and great grandmother to 5.

She gives £5.00 for Christmas/birthdays up to secondary school age. She doesn't give anything to her own children or partners.

My DC's understand this and are both over this age. They have never expected anything from relatives and know this is bad manners.

I don't blame her at all - all this buying stuff is madness. It's not about being uncaring and everyone is treated the same. She is on the bones of her arse pension-wise so I think she is very good to do what she does in terms of helping with looking after some of them occassionally.

i would still buy yes

It's not unreasonable. I have four nieces, when the oldest turned 18 I thought it was mean to not give her an easter egg when the other three got one, so I carried on buying them all eggs until this year. The oldest is 23 and has a daughter of her own, the second is about to finish university, the third is 18 and the youngest is 16. All too old to worry about eggs IMO. So this year I only bought an egg for my great niece.

You have to have a cut off point somewhere.

My parents buy me and Gomez eggs and we'll buy them for our kids for as long as we live but nieces and nephews stop when they become adults. They still get eggs from parents and grandparents which is enough.

You're never too old for an egg - my DD (14) bought her parents (grumpy & old!) an Easter egg each off her own back - totally unprompted .. so she definately gets an egg for as long as she wants one!

I think YABU sorry I am 23 I have two DC yet my uncles still buy me easter eggs (raised together like siblings) they still see me as the baby it has to stop sometimes I find it embarrassing when I am the only adult to be bought a egg.

I think it depends. My 6 year old didn't get an egg because he doesn't like chocolate or sweets ( I got him some lego instead) My 2 year old would have eaten all the chocolate eggs in the shop if he could ( he got a small Peppa Pig one) and DH had one filled with Haribo sweets ( he is 39) I always by a little something for everyone at Easter because that is what we have always done as a family but if you don't then that's fine too.

Easter eggs officially stop in my family when you reach 18 although I usually stop much earlier than that. I just don't see the point in buying chocolate for adults or other peoples children for that matter. If I am seeing relatives I will buy the children eggs but I don't buy otherwise. Some relatives have given us eggs in February because they won't be seeing us at Easter, I find that really odd, just don't buy the eggs in the first place.

I tend to think that families should just buy for their own children, no child needs more than a couple of eggs. Ds2 (just turned 1) received 9 easter eggs and ds1 received 12. It is really silly. My mum said that despite telling people not to buy her eggs she still received 6 and she threw them in the bin this morning. Its so wasteful.