To go on holiday with partner cos too scared to go alone?

[Flojo1979]

Oh god where to start....me and DP have been together just over a yr and over half of that has been spent rowing about nothing at all.
I keep saying its over but he says he loves me and we'll get through it and he'll try harder etc, but we just aint getting through it, its got so bad now that we r just on the defensive with each other. Theres no reason to argue but somehow we do.
Which brings me to today, I know I was the unreasonable one but after months of stupid rowing and making up I guess I just snap at slightest thing now. Row went like this...I went to have a shower and said to my DS (5) "come on, u havent even got sorted" i.e. dressed etc in morning. I walked in to room to find DP having a shave, saying "u r always controlling me", i replied "what u on about", he said "making me shave", i again, slightly more annoyed repeated it, he said "u said I havent even had a shave" I said "u r mistaken" to which he replied "no i am not, u r unbelievable, u cant even remember what u said, u r crazy so sod off" at which point i threw the tub of sanctuary body cream i was holding at him, splattering him and my laptop and up the walls.
He left, went home.
We have a break to scotland booked next wkend and a wk in malta booked for 4 wks time. Do i say i'm sorry and go with him or do i take my kids (5&2) and go alone?

Go alone. If you get on as badly as you say, a holiday will be horrendous.
Do you have good times together? If not, I can't really see he point of being together. Good luck anyway.

FGS do alone, and get rid of him.
You sound awful together.

Make a clean break and don't go on holiday with him.

Go on your own. What's so difficult about it?

Go alone, it will be fabulous with out anyone to argue with.

Look up gaslighting and see if you think that applies or if you think he just misheard you.

Christ you'll be lucky to go anywhere while you are on bail for GBH which you would be if you had thrown a tub of anything at me in temper.

u make it sound so easy :(

the holiday is in both our names so i'm not sure how i can go without him, maybe he'll be spiteful and cancel all the flights or maybe he'll insist on going since he paid. I guess i'll just have to see how the next few days unfold and what happens with the wkend break.

GBH? god how did it come to that.

It isn't easy. It is bloody hard.

You have only been together a year and you have spent half of that arguing already.

Do you want your son to grow up in this environment? Do you want to spend the next 5/10/15 years of your life shouting and throwing things?

If you think the relationship is worth saving then insist on councelling to sort out what the hell you are doing wrong together.

If he says no you can see that his priorities do not lie with sorting your relationship and you have to decide if this is what you want.

Flojo If you had hit him with the tub whilst he was shaving and he ad cut himself this would have been GBH.

As it was you threw the tub at him and missed so this is "merely" assault. Still a criminal act. Domestic violence is unacceptable whether it is perpetrated by the male or female partner, and the factr that you did this with your dcs in the house should make you question whether you have anger management issues in general or whether it is this relationship that is is making you behave in this way.

Either way you should not be together unless you both have counselling for both of your sakes and more importantly for the mental and and physical welfare of your children.