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Am I being PFBish by not giving my 24 wk old ice-cream?

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Udderly · 24/04/2011 23:35

She's only just started solids. In the past few weeks I've had to sternly decline ice-cream for her from a variety of relatives, not all of the batty variety. I wouldn't've thought ice-cream would be on the cards for a long time yet. I've had a few "1st timer" remarks. Am I a mean wicked witch to deny my DD, when is it ok?

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catsareevil · 25/04/2011 08:58

Just saw the bit about dairy - why not until 12 months? Its fine from 6 months.

Cat98 · 25/04/2011 08:59

Yanbu. Firstly - why would you give them some, they won't care at that age so surely better to leave sugary stuff until their older? But secondly - why does anyone else care? Your baby, your way hun ;)

strandedbear · 25/04/2011 08:59

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pommedechocolat · 25/04/2011 09:00

Dairy can be given after 6 months.
24 weeks too young. DD is 13 months and I am much more 'whatever' about sugary treats than most people I know but I wouldn't have given her ice cream at 24 weeks.

SardineQueen · 25/04/2011 09:10

Of course your baby should eat what you say, it's your baby!

Agree however with stranded bear and others though that a little wouldn't actually do any harm (assuming baby doesn't have allergies etc).

Tarenath · 25/04/2011 09:11

YANBU

I went absolutely bonkers when ds was given ice cream by grandma at 4.5 months without my permission. I hadn't started weaning him yet!!

EdwardorEricCantDecide · 25/04/2011 09:13

I tried my DS with ice cream when he was about 10 months he hated it (think it was too cold)
He's now 2yo and if adults are having a cone etc he won't go without and shocked me last week when he polished off an entire corneto Shock

IMO YANBU
But I would never have given chocolate etc as early had it not been for grannies I still need to try and keep quantity under control though.

DuelingFanjo · 25/04/2011 09:16

"you really don't give your three year old any chocolate? Even at Easter?"

this made me chuckle. 'not even at easter!' he he. Does everyone celebrate easter with chocolate?

Bunbaker · 25/04/2011 09:18

YANBU. 24 weeks is too young for ice cream anyway, but dairy is fine from 6 months. DD was so uninterested in eating at that age I didn't dare give her anything sweet because she wouldn't have eaten anything else at all. I used to have battles with MIL about not giving her sweets because I knew it would make a rod for my own back at meal times.

microfight · 25/04/2011 09:24

duelingfanjo
I would have thought most children in this country get given chocolate eggs at Easter, why did this make you chuckle? An obvious assumption I would have thought?
And if family members give the children chocolate is it then taken away.

Bunbaker · 25/04/2011 09:27

"Does everyone celebrate Easter with chocolate?"

The only people I know who don't are Jehovah's Witnesses.

theidsalright · 25/04/2011 09:56

YANBU

DH worked with ice-cream (Mr Softee type machines) as a student. He has always discouraged everyone from buying this type of ice-cream due to the fact that the machines are supposed to be detailed cleaned every night and very rarely are, due to being so damned difficult to clean, iyswim (long, very thin plastic tubing inside). They therefore are likely to be harbouring all types of milky yuck.

That aside, it's your baby, do what you want! DS still does not get ice cream (he's 2). he does not even know what ice cream is, so he does not ask for it. Same with sweets, chocolate etc. I get ribbed by friend but don't remotely care. There will be plenty of time for all that junk later on.

ScroobiousPip · 25/04/2011 10:01

YANBU. Nothing to do with dairy (unless there are allergies) but you're the parent and what you say goes. Plus, your still weaning, encouraging her on to as wide a variety of foods as possible - why introduce highly addictive sugary fatty treats any earlier than you need to?

hairfullofsnakes · 25/04/2011 10:08

micro
No I haven't ever really given him chocolate! He has had the occasional slice of choc cake at parties and at a party at the weekend he had his first real bit of chocolate. The thing is I won't deny him as such, or make a big deal about it, but I have never given him things like that and he isnt that fussed at the moment so it is fine now. If some of his friends have it, I give him alternatives and he is happy with that but like at weekend his friends had a choc nest and he asked for one so I let him have one and he was happy with that. I said one is enough and he was fine with that.

For me, I dont see the need to give him sugary stuff and a taste for it at this age, there is plenty of time for that! He has fruit a lot etc and I teach him that a treat is fine but too much is not good for you and whereas at parties his friends are going mad for the chocolates he is not but that could all change! For me it is about not denying him buy not encouraging it either if you see what I mean.

Sugar is such an addictive thing I would rather instill this control now and seeing how some kids are with choc I am glad I do. With Easter eggs when he is older he of course can have a bit but now he is not aware of them so to me why introduce them IYSWIM

My little girl is under 2 and has no choc or cakes at all, until she is more aware like the eldest I will keep it like that

hairfullofsnakes · 25/04/2011 10:10

Totally agree with theidisalright

SlightlyScrambled · 25/04/2011 10:18

I haven't given icecream yet to dd and she's 15 months old. Or chocolate either. I definitely wouldn't have given it at 6 months. Sugar being my first concern.

It really is up to you what you want to feed your baby. If it doesn't sit right with you then you don't have to. There'll be time enough when they are older and can demand what they want.

SardineQueen · 25/04/2011 10:20

definitely don't give babies that mr softee stuff.

You want a nice organic ice-cream with whole pieces of fruit in it from somewhere like waitrose Wink

Bottleofbeer · 25/04/2011 10:22

6 years since I was at the weaning stage but I seem to recall no Mr Whippy type ice-cream till about a year old.

SardineQueen · 25/04/2011 10:22

You all know that breast milk is very very sweet, though, right? And presumably formula as well if it replicates BM. Obviously a different type of sugar but still...

SardineQueen · 25/04/2011 10:23

CANCEL whole fruit pieces as obvious choking hazard! Grin

mueslimuncher · 25/04/2011 10:38

YANBU. I remember ds's auntie spoonfeeding him ice cream behind my back when he was 8 months. He promptly puked all over her! Served her bloody right.
I'm constantly fighting the sugar pushers (dp, his family, my mum) who don't understand why I won't let him eat lots of sweet things.
My son has a lifetime to eat as much crap as he wants, but whilst I still have control over what he consumes he's eating healthily.

microfight · 25/04/2011 10:49

Thanks for that hairfullofsnakes, it's great that you have managed to do that.

DuelingFanjo · 25/04/2011 10:51

"The only people I know who don't are Jehovah's Witnesses"

I rarely hd easter eggs as a child, pnly if grandparents were visiting.
I'm not a god botherer though, and I don't do lent and all that.

Etalb · 25/04/2011 11:16

Urnbu- LLL say no dairy till 12 mths - my DS has cows milk allegy he is 6 mths - you don't know what they will be allergic to. Before he was even weaned people wanted him to taste there choc or ice cream - it gets on my nerves!!! A five month old died at a nursery from milk allegy when he was given someone elses breakfast! And a friends baby chocked on a marshmallow that someone else had suggested they have! Its your baby and you should decide what they eat!!!

Etalb · 25/04/2011 11:18

Sorry bad typing!