aibu - probably. Children, play things and being mean.

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its highly possible i am indeed BU.

but i was pissed off and its been bothering me, and im in a bad mood following an agrument with my mother, so thougt id ask this too.

went to this farm type place earlier in the week. Its was surprisingly quiet.
Went to build a den with DD. You know, woods, lots ot sticks, half built den set up kind of thing.

It was just DD and i, she didnt want to join in with anyone else ( was family central) so we wandered off to the back and found one and started playing ourselves.

Had been there about 40 mins or so when this lot of about 7/8 years olds come over. DD was away getting a stick but i was sitting in front of the den. They said ( and i could hear them) to guard it so the girl ( DD couldnt get back in) they all went off to get sticks and left one holding fort.

I left it to see what would happen.. and i dont really belive in stepping in, they should kind of sort it out them selves.

DD was upset, she tried to talk to them, but the ignored her. so i said to the one holding fort that it was a bit mean as we had been playing there first and there were a lot of other spare dens.

The reply was that it was their den but they were not ignoreing her.

they were.

DD tried to join in, but in the end we gave up and started going home. they saw. and went back to their parents on the other side of the field.

DD said, lets go back mummy, they have gone. which they seemed to see and all went running ahread to guard it again.

So - AIBU to be a bit shocked and pissed off.
or is this just how it is.

possibly being a bit PFB.

That's horrible! What a bunch of little fuckers!

8 year olds are nasty, but...wow!

yanbu or pfb at all
I would feel the same.

DD is 5 and was really confused. She couldnt really work out what she was meant to do.
Talk to them, or run away.
She did try to talk to them, and tried to play with them.

but they wouldnt let her.

and really, i was sitting right outside the den entrance, it was clear we were there. and there were lots and lots of other dens there they could have played with.

I dont know if DD and i should just toughen up, or if their parents should have stepped in? or what.

No, I don't think you were being PFB, I'd have not gone in with a gentle "You are being a bit mean", I'd have gone in with a "Let her join in or I'll tell your parents that you are being horrible little bullies and they will take you home"

The other parents were being dickheads if they could hear what was going on, but the possiblility was that they couldn't, as in general 8 year olds don't need the level of supervision that requires you to listen to them much.

haha spenguin,dont hold back
I see this shit all the time and often wonder if dd would be the same if not with me and in a group,when away last week she was so chuffed at being able to go to the playarea on her own-she is 8-but some bigger girls told her to go away as it was theirs.I took her back down and scowled at ignored them whilst she played.I bet their parents guard their suburban homes with sticks to keep people out.

YANBU although I would have firmly sent them on their way.

No, yanbu. They were being mean.

Ganging up on one child isn't pleasant and I'd be furious at ds if I ever caught him acting like that.

Spenguin - I was flamed for calling a kid a brat once so be prepared to be well and truely toasted for calling them little fuckers!!

YANBU.

Horrid.

You should have told them off. I'm all for children learning to stick up for themselves but if it was one little girl against a group and they wouldn't give in, there was not much she could have done. When they said it was their den you should have siad. "No it isn't. We were playing here first. You either play nicely and let my daughter join in, or you go and find somewhere else to play." All said in very strict voice! Hope it didn't spoil your daughter's day out too much.

I think I would have spoken up when I first heard them mention not letting her in! As she is so little she can not stand up to children so much older - there is a world of difference between 5 and 8.

i did, i said i expect that lots and lots of other children had also played with it.

i was probably not very firm, not really had to tell anyone elses children off before and was really, quite stumped.

Felt bad for DD who just kept looking at me, because she didnt know what to do.

I just told her on the way home they were mean, and you should share and she agreed and then said that they didnt even say sorry so it was lilkely father chritsmas wouldnt be impressed! ( bless her)

I cant remember back to being either 5 or 8. and their parents couldnt see or hear... and ive not come across this kind of thing before so was just a bit thrown.

Your poor DD

I expect the others had been in that one for 2 minutes three hours before and considered they owned it. I hate it when kids behave like that.

(We were at Legoland once and my DD started clambering over one of those static cars they have here and there at the same time that a group of children who were obviously together got on to it. One of them looked at her, and said to one of the other children loudly: "Who's SHE?" and they continued all talking to each other. I only just stopped myself from saying "Well who are YOU?" to him. They were only wrapped up in their own game and thinking they owned the place, just being kids but still . . . )

They are horrible children. Did i read that your daughter is 5? I would have been in there with a sarky comment and a stare!!and if that didn't work i would have said in a very loud voice something about them being awful children who should know better!

YANBU. I would've had hard words. Or at least a hard stare.