or was I being (unintentionally) a bitch?

[heliumballoons]

My Dsis is pg. (12 weeks)

Chatting the other day and I mentioned my friend had all her baby stuff in loft - maybe worth while seeing if she could use/ buy some.

Dsis says "uurrgh no, all the stuff will be brand new, and mums buying it for me'. (no idea if this is wishful thinking or if she is)

I just mentioned and asked my Mum if she remembered how much I got for DS in a bundle (2nd hand). Basically travel system, baby bouncer, bath, moses basket and sterilizer for £100.

Mum said oh yes I remember now.

Now I feel guilty. . I didn't mean it to come out how I think it did.

I seriously was just reminising. (and the ex-ils bought the cot!!)

BTW mum was present during the conversation!!

So you were talking to both your mum and your sister? And you reminded your mum how cheaply you got everything secondhand?
I don't think you were being a bitch exactly, but you were kind of inadvertently sniping at your sis's pre-PFBness, weren't you.

(mind you, I have ishoos with the whole "oh no, it has to be all new" attitude myself unless the person in question genuinely suffers from some kind of OCD)

No that doesn't sound bitchy at all just a normal conversation.

Of course you were 'reminising'! [buwink]

No thumb thats just it. I had forgotton and just suddenly went 'ooh, remember all the things I got DS and for how cheap'.

It was after I thought 'oh helium, you knob, that must have sounded totally bitchy'. As I said my Ex-ILs bought the cot for DS so hardly any different. [bublush]

I wouldn't honestly worry about it. After all, it's between your mother and your sister - if your sister wants to get all new stuff and your mum can't afford it then your sister will have to fork out herself.
If, OTOH, your mum tells her to get over herself, nothing wrong with decent second-hand stuff, that's what I'll be getting you or you can get it yourself - then your sis can make her choice.

Seriously - it doesn't sound that bad! And I did say "inadvertently" in my first post because it didn't really sound like you meant it to sound that way. [busmile]

mind you, if I were your sister, I'd be having anything off you that you cared to let me have - I wasn't at all precious about being given secondhand stuff! Except the cot mattress and linens. I did go a bit overboard there [bublush] (but not really)

My Mum can afford to buy her everything brand new - and possibly will. Things are different now from when I had DS 6.8 yrs ago. Parents have no mortgage and no longer have my brother and sister at home.

If mum choses too I really have no gripe with it. My DS has been the only GC for all this time and so has had lots for xmas and birthdays which will now be shared with another GC.

It really was a case of open mouth and say what brain was thinking/ remembering and then think 'oh shit' I hope that didn't sound wrong. [bublush]

Funny thing is I have a sterilizer I was going to offer her - wondering whether to do it now. Guess so as it won't be a surprise if she turns her nose up at it.