To not want dp to watch pulp fiction with dd 11mo?

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Am I being really pfb?

It just seems wrong! He doesn't agree because she doesn't understand what is going on and is not even looking at the tv, she is playing with dp. He just says he had it on in the background so that's ok. It drives me mad he needs constant tv babble anyway but thats another issue!

Aibu?

YABU and pfb

Shes a baby, she won't remember anything. Same as it's pointless sending a card to cbeebies for a 1 yr olds birthday, they don't remember, understand or care.

Oh dear god of course you're being unreasonable LMFAO!!

Yadbu. She's a baby FGS!

Don't know.

I wouldn't personally have something on that had lots of screaming and shouting etc, as kids pick up on the "tone" of that, but as far as the actual content being adult, I'd say YABU, DD wouldn't pick up on that.

Yes, I'd say YABU. But, I went through the same phase of pfb syndrome. When ds1 was a baby, i refused to watch Jeremy Kyle or anything similar as i did not want that much negativity in the room with us!
I really laugh about it now (ds1 is 3yrs), so I do understand where you're coming from with it, but really, nothing bad will happen if Pulp Fiction is on the telly whilst she plays with her Dad.

Oops! Looks like I owe dp an apology for making him turn it off

Put it down to pfb itis. Thanks for giving me a shake ladies!

An 11 mo is a sponge. If you DP thinks she is not absorbing anything from he is kidding himself. I utterly disagree with all of you who say that she's a baby ergo she doesn't understand or care. Even if she doesn't appear to be watching (and I hope not) she will still be aware of it in the background. I do not think you are BU and pfb. I have 4 children, the oldest of which is nearly 18 and would never let them watch anything inappropriate until they were ready. They are all bold, courageous and positive-minded children, not shrinking violets. Stand by your principles I say!

Anyway there there is evidence to suggest that any background TV before age 3 delays speech development, not least I would think because it means that the adults around them are not focused on talking to them.

I'm going to buck the trend and say, no, I don't think you're unreasonable to make him turn it off. I don't think babies or young children should be watching violent films. She won't be focusing on it, but might see the odd scene, which then might resurface as a dream or something, and scare her. Plus, at 11 months she will be absorbing language and be just about to start talking (if she hasn't already done so), and I wouldn't want her exposed to the type of language that is used in that type of film.

Can I just point out that Pulp Fiction is an 18 for "Contains strong violence and sex references and hard drug use". Link to BBFC entry here. Would you let a 3yo watch it? Then why let a 1 year old?

oh good duchesse, I thought I was going to be the only one!

Yanbu. Babies should not watch tv, certainly not violence like pulp fiction

Some babies that age start talking. Do you want her to pick up her first words from that?

Also I've read (in a book called Baby Talk) that constant background chatter like tv or radio is bad for speech development as babies learn to zone out voices.

Madness at those who think this is a pfb thing.

Just realised I said the same as duchesse

So I must be right. [bugrin]

YABU. I watched any old thing with the DDs until they were about 18mo and actually starting to understand. I very much doubt an 11mo would pay any attention since the movie does not contain Upsy Daisy or Thomas.

I don't like dd 'watching' anything with too stressful a tone, as she can pick up on that, but we don't really watch tv anyway.

I wouldn't. I don't even watch the news when DS is in the room.

Thanks duchesse, I don't feel like such a fruit bat now! I'm glad someone else sees why I felt it was just a bit wrong. It was only the dancing scene though so I'm hoping it has not done too much damage

Well I was the same. I wouldn't let DH watch stuff that had lots of guns and shooting and shouting etc. in because the noise stress levels are quite high for a little baby, not because I was scared he would get ideas.

Pulp Fiction probably wouldn't have been that bad though except in certain bits. I'd have probably put the mute button on in the noisy bits.

YANBU, she might not understand it but of course she is absorbing it.

Really shocked that people think this is ok.

I just consulted DH on the matter and he said at 11mo he wouldn't really worry about the hard drug use and sex bits (my proviso being as long as not violent), but the violent bits would be not a good idea even for a baby.

YA NOT NOT NOT being unreasonable!
There is no way on earth I'd let either of my children watch pulp Fiction. And my DD is 9 months old. All of that violence, it does go in even if not cognitively understood by a 9 month old. Why on earth would you want to expose an innocent baby to that!
Don't get me wrong I think Pulp Fiction is an excellent film - for adults!