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Original poster

to think my dh is a hypocrite

22 replies

cantfindamnnickname · 22/04/2011 20:17

DH claims to be a catholic, he is not eating meat today - fair enough BUT

he doesnt go to church, we lived in sin for 5 years, we had child out of wedlock, and the worst is he cant even tell me WHY he shouldnt eat meat today.

OP posts:
Vallhala · 22/04/2011 20:21

This is known as A Very Good Thing.

It means that you can send him to the nearest fish and chip shop and avoid cooking tonight. :o

fedupofnamechanging · 22/04/2011 20:22

YANBU.

penguin73 · 22/04/2011 20:24

as hypocritical as my very devout Catholic mum who had a go at shops being open, me going to them etc etc then sending me a text with a list of things to get for her whilst I was there! [buhmm]

ohmyfucksy · 22/04/2011 20:25

Haha not eating meat is small fry compared to never going to church and having a kid out of wedlock. How odd

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2011 20:28

Idiot [bugrin]

Is he usually this odd?

ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 22/04/2011 20:30

As Dara O'Briain said "There's no such thing as an ex-catholic, only a bad catholic" :o

Original poster
cantfindamnnickname · 22/04/2011 20:33

well i guess he is a really BAD catholic then Grin

Vallhala - yep done that it does have its advantages but it is so ODD

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MaisyMooCow · 22/04/2011 21:12

Guilt - it's a Catholic thing.

JaneS · 22/04/2011 21:22

Culturally Catholic but doesn't believe? My dad is an atheist but would be crushed if we didn't have pancakes on shrove tuesday.

Trust me: my husband has been fasting from meat, dairy, alcohol and sex since the beginning of Lent: you want him to be a bad Catholic! Grin

LadyGraceMontyColman · 22/04/2011 21:23

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theoldtrout01876 · 23/04/2011 01:17

recovering catholic here :o
Got over the catholic thing fast when the ccd teacher told my then 8
year old ds that their mum was an adulteress for divorcing their abusive father Shock. Then the priest refused to seat us separately at my then 7 year olds first communion as a restraining order was just a family matter not being dealt with in the proper fashionConfused

frgr · 23/04/2011 01:37

if it makes you feel any better, i don't know any catholics who aren't hypocrites.

seriously, i don't know any who aren't "catholic in name only" sort of thing. it's funny, looking in as an agonostic, how these things are - very odd behaviour all around.

FriedEggyAndSlippery · 23/04/2011 01:52

A bit odd and hypocritical - but not doing any harm presumably?

Unless you have a particular urge for steak. :)

ll31 · 23/04/2011 02:04

I dont' get whats odd - maybe he just wants to do what he remembers from his religion.. if its not impacting you whats the problem?

LoopyLiz88 · 23/04/2011 02:21

YABa teeny bitU. DH and I had 2 dc together and he was divorced before we got married and we're both catholic. We don't go to church nearly as often as we should but there is no way I would eat meat today. I know it doesn't make sense. I couldn't have a ham sandwhich today but we had a lobster dinner for DH's birthday. BUT it is how we were raised.

anonymosity · 23/04/2011 02:46

you know, the Catholic church dropped that whole don't eat meat on Good Friday (or any Friday) about 25 yrs ago. So he's not even being Catholic about it, just out-dated.

ll31 · 23/04/2011 03:27

I think people can be very unreasonable about other peoples religious beliefs.. if its what he wants to do whats the problems??

southofthethames · 23/04/2011 03:44

Not hypocritical, just a cultural practice he's grown up with maybe? Some Catholic families used to observe the fish on Friday custom, others don't (one Catholic friend said to me recently, "oh, so THAT'S why mum always got fish and chips on a Friday and not other days!"). It's like not being a Christian but still enjoying celebrating Christmas and singing carols?

pillowhead · 23/04/2011 09:02

No - you're not being unreasonable. It's rather like a Muslim who enjoys all the trappings of western life, like promiscuous sex, alcohol etc, but then gets all holier than thou about not eating a bacon sarnie....

dreamingofromance · 23/04/2011 09:05

I guess its a bit like having a diet coke with your mcdonalds. Its a small getsure at least Grin

gkys · 23/04/2011 09:19

aren't we all a little hypocritical? Go on be honest Grin

frgr · 23/04/2011 14:21

gkys maybe, but then i don't have the cheek to act all pious about it, which isn't the case for a lot of the "religous" hypocrites I know.

besides the things i'm hypocritical about aren't anywhere near as significant (or impacting on others) as some religious practices. i'm happy to admit that i won't watch jeremy kyle on the tv as i think it's sick how they try to exploit some very real human beings on the show, and extract their pain for their viewing pleasures, but i did catch myself having a sneaky peak at one of those dancing shows the other day whilst i was at my sister's (which is basically the same thing in my opinion - humiliate others for public tv viewing ratings). am i a hypocrite in that regard? yes. does it harm others? not really, not directly. does the op's husband's oddity affect others? not really, it's a relatively trivial matter - but let's not pretend that the stupid things people do in the name of religion are all harmless. they're not.

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