Honestly, which of your DCs was hardest to parent?

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bananasinpjamas · 22/04/2011 01:41

I'm not a mum, but my mum said we were about equal.

My bro was a bit of nightmare as a baby, hyper toddler, real one for doing 'stunts' that landed him in a & e a few times, no interest in academia at school, always had crap reports/parents evenings, went to sixthform for a year and almost got kicked out, impulsive with money, bit of a 'kevin' & argumentative at times, smokes/drinks regulary etc. However, he has always been very protective of me, funny, generous, respectful to other people no-matter what their age/background, and has a incredible 'real world' work ethic.

Me on the other hand, was content as a baby, but due to undiagnosed SN was very sensitive to noise up to age 5-6 (still am lol), + everything that goes with having SN and getting people to recognise my problems/get my support/getting parents to understand what its like for me. On the other hand, I have always been very inquisitive, a good reader, interested in cooking good food, 'the geek', don't follow the crowd, only serious boyfriend at 19 (still in stable!) , don't drink to excess, have no interest in 'experimenting' etc

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noodle69 · 23/04/2011 08:01

I only have one child so far but I have a daughter and I expect she will be a nightmare teen as girls ime just want to go nuts when they hit their teens.

I was a nightmare whereas my brother was more of a play xbox/footie type of lad. I was just in to everything and I expect our daughter will end up the same way. It often becomes a battle of wills mums/daughters in the teenage years I have noticed!

msmiggins · 23/04/2011 08:05

I have yet to experience a teenage daughter, she is just 11, but so far has been a very easy child.
My son was quite tricky when he was younger, loads of tantrums, quite volatile, but when he reached 11 really calmed down. He is 14 now, in the middle of puberty and is great now,- very calm, very helpful and funny, no moods, easy going. I was dreading him going through puberty because he had been difficult when he was younger.
Maybe it's my easy going daughter that is going to give me a hard time!

Booandpops · 23/04/2011 08:43

My children are still young but so far dd has been far harder. Many tantrums over emotional. Demanding but she is bright and sociable

My Ds is in the middle of troublesome threes now but he generally is a placid child but stubborn. Very funny and loving

I await the teens with interest!

dreamingofromance · 23/04/2011 08:46

I have one and he is lovely

shabbapinkfrog · 23/04/2011 08:47

My DS4 (4 sons, no daughters) has been far and beyond my hardest.

I was almost 41 when I had him - he was a very big suprise....wonderful but a massive suprise!!!!

He will be 14 in July....and I will be 55 at the end of the year. He is a very bright lad, but hates his High School. As a baby he didn't 'sleep through' until he was almost 5 - 5 years not 5 months!!

I swear now that if he rolls his eyes at me, doesn't have a shower, or tuts just one more soddin' time my head will explode.

TortoiseVEasterBunny · 23/04/2011 08:49

I have 4. Eldest is 14, youngest is 6.
So far DD1 7, is the hardest. She has a very fiery temper and is over emotional. Doing well at school and seems popular. School never see the bad temper! Wish I didn't!

Claz1001 · 23/04/2011 08:50

I love both my DCs dearly but can honestly say that DD (4) is much more of a challenge than DS (5 mths), and has been from the word go! I have an extremely strong willed young lady and a chilled out baby boy. The thought of the teenage years scares the hell out of me (particularly when I think back to what I was like!).

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 23/04/2011 08:56

I have two with ASD. My dd is much higher functioning but far harder work, very demanding, extremely jealous and I can see more 'issues' creeping in as she gets older

DS otoh can be very agressive, has no sense of danger etc. But in the main, when we get it right he is a very sunny natured, loving little boy who grannys still make a beeline for aged 10. he could also sell snow to the eskimos

I love them both dearly and go out of my way to spend time alone with dd a lot more than I do ds, I tink her ASD and being aware of it is making her quite bitter, she wants friends and to play with the other kids in the park but doesn't know how to go about it, whereas ds doesn't care.

It's very sad tbh

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