to be a tiny bit fuming at this ebayer?

[dandycandyjellybean]

Won an item last night, and arranged to collect it this evening. It was in the next town from me, about 20 mins away. I had to be there to collect something else between 4 and 5, so asked if this was convenient.

Text retuned saying 6 better for me pls. So I said no prob. So my 5 yr old ds and I kill over an hour mooching round the shops, etc. I ended up stuck in a huge queue in a supermarket, then in rush hour traffic, and didn't arrive until 20 past. HOld my hands up and admit that it is bad on my behalf to be 20 mins late, although the house is on a massive main road, very near a huge busy junction with crossings and lights and such and it actually took me over ten minutes to negotiate all these until I was pointing in the right direction to pull up outside her house, in quite dangerouse proximity to the junction and on double yellows, but was the only place to park, bulky item couldn't be carried very far.

Had heard text come in whilst doing this but couldn't stop to check, and when I looked there was a message saying I am outside my house looking for you as I have to go out in a minute, that was at 5 pst 6.

Knocked the door several times, texted her, and left message on ansa phone. Waited 15 mins but because of the danger/double yellows etc, I then left. Plus my ds was pretty fractious by this time.

Surely, if you have arranged for someone to collect a bulky item (i.e. not just a case of handing over an envelope at the door, time needed to negotiate it out of building and into a car on a busy road) giving them a 15 min window to do this, with no advance heads up is unreasonable?

Do you think this email sounds reasonable, don't want to reveal my true peed offness coz I don't want bad feedback:

Hi, it seems we missed one another this afternoon. I was not one hundred per cent sure where your house was, and, when I realised, ended up stuck in the usual traffic around that area at that time, hence not getting there until 20 past. I banged several times, then text and left you a message on yr mobile. I couldn't wait indefinitely there as it is double yellow lines and the volume of traffic made it dangerous, plus I had my little boy with me, and as we had already killed over an hour in Nxxxx, he was getting understandably fractious and hungry. Would it be possible to arrange another time for collection, one with perhaps just a little more leeway?

Many thanks,

You were not in any way unreasonable... but you do want the item!

Always wait until you have received the goods before complaining- just as you should never complain in a restaurant until you've eaten the food

I think the 'perhaps with a little more leeway' bit makes it look like you're not going to attempt to be on time again tbh.

YANBU to be a tiny bit fuming but if I was going somewhere I had never been before I would have aimed to be there 15 mins early and waited in the car listening to music, colouring, playing games etc until the time you had agreed. She may have had an emergency, hence the text. Also, now that you know where the house is and what the traffic is like, I would not put anything about needing more leeway. As howdoyoueatyours points out, looks like you will be cutting it fine again.

Sorry , i dont think your in a position to be pissed off , you agreed a time and you were late . Twenty minuites wasnt a long time to you because you had nothing better to do , but 20 min is VERY late if your about to start an evening shift , or if your picking up your dcs , or if youve got a docs apointment or something . If i had something important to do i wouldnt have waited either .

Id not be happy if i received that email and youd get an arsey one back.

I do agree diggs, that 20 mins is very late if about to start work etc, but why arrange a collection (as I mentioned for a bulky item that would take a little time to arrange) if your time is that tight. Did you check out the revised email that I sent in the end?

I did , have you had a reply ?