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to just buy DS clothes and trainers for his fifth birthday?

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superv1xen · 21/04/2011 17:02

i am already having a party for him at my home with around 20 (eek) of his closest friends and hiring a bouncy castle.

and from his dad (who i am not with) he is getting a skateboard and some other little things, he is getting a giant trampoline for the garden from my parents, and a ben 10 scooter from his other grandparents. so he is not going to go short, in fact he is going to be pretty spoilt tbh.

so me and DH were thinking of getting him some converse all stars and some nice clothes, as he does really need some new clothes as he gets through clothes at a ridiculous rate! obviously we will wrap them up as presents (and he does actually like clothes and stuff so he should be quite happy with them) but nothing else. but part of me thinks its a bit mean to get my 5 year old something so boring as clothes for his birthday! but we are not exactly loaded at the moment, have just paid for a holiday plus the bouncy castle was £50 to hire.

what do others think?

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TobyLerone · 21/04/2011 17:03

I buy my children (10 and 11) clothes for every birthday and Christmas. They love it, and they have other people to get them the 'fun' stuff.

My daughter's birthday is in a couple of weeks and she just wants money. With that money, she will buy clothes!

nickelbaalamb · 21/04/2011 17:04

Sounds good to me.
what's the point of buying him crap when other people will do that?
buy him something useful.

GiraffeAHolic · 21/04/2011 17:07

I think thats a great idea, converse are a present in themselves IMO. If he likes clothes he'll probably be really chuffed and will new clothes to wear for his party :)

Lonnie · 21/04/2011 17:11

great idea imo

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superv1xen · 21/04/2011 17:55

nickelbaa yep my point exactly :o

glad people don't think i'm awful haha

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Sirzy · 21/04/2011 17:57

Great idea!

Clary · 21/04/2011 17:59

I think clothes are a great present.

Ds2 in partic has often had clothes (like a fun T-shirt) as gifts from pals at birthday parties and they have always been faves.

(Often they are thing I might not buy - cartoon characters etc! - so he wears them with glee! Equally he is DC no 3 so doesn't often get new clothes).

Firawla · 21/04/2011 18:29

If he likes them, and he is getting other exciting presents from others and a party then I think its fine, it does not sound as though he will be having a miserable birthday with nothing! Sometimes its worth going down the practical route, it's still something for them to open and enjoy, without adding more and more stuff that's unneeded. I am gonna get some clothes for my ds birthday too i think, wrapped as presents. I will probs get something else too but as clary said some kinds of clothes esp character ones they can really like it, my ds would like thomas tshirts probably more than some other toy presents. So if you know your ds will be happy then why not

FabbyChic · 21/04/2011 18:31

My personal opinion is that it is mean to buy children clothes for their birthdays, if you do not want to give him presents then put the money away for him in an account. Do not buy clothes though for a five year old it seems a bit mean.

Why does he need converse trainers at aged 5?

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superv1xen · 21/04/2011 18:38

because converse look nice fabby

he has had about 3 pairs since he was about 1.

he has got Uggs as well. real ones.

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superv1xen · 21/04/2011 18:40

and as i said, he is already getting 3 big presents from other people anyway. plus the other little bits of plastic crap stuff he will end up with from various other sources.

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Sirzy · 21/04/2011 18:43

I am sure most children would appreciate clothes more than being told "your money is in the bank, you can have it in 13 years!"

worraliberty · 21/04/2011 18:45

I'd sooner give him a few bits from the pound shop than pretend the clothes you need to buy him anyway are presents....but as long as he's happy.

I always think it's akin to wrapping up their breakfast or dinner and saying 'there you go, Happy Birthday' lol.

peggy0062 · 21/04/2011 18:49

It's a good present if the child likes it

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superv1xen · 21/04/2011 18:52

lol worraliberty :o

and yeah he DOES like clothes, he is already a right little poser and gets excited when he gets new stuff or has his hair cut and likes to preen in front of the mirror admiring himself, to which i look at him like this >>>

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 21/04/2011 18:56

He certainly doesn't need anything else for his birthday [bugrin]

However, I'd buy him a toy - I'd hate to feel like mean mummy buying boring clothes when everyone else has bought fun presents! I'd hate him to think I didn't want to buy him the things he wants, just boring clothes... but you know your DS, if you think he'd be happy with them, then go ahead!

ValiumBandwitch · 21/04/2011 18:59

yeah, if he's not asking for anything else, don't spend money. my son wanted tipp-ex for his fifth birthday and I said no. his second choice was a ring binder folder. I got him that and threw in a hole punch and some highlighter pens and a pad of paper and he was delighted. werid little guy!

saffy85 · 21/04/2011 19:04

YANBU as long as it's stuff you know he will like. DD always gets clothes from me for birthdays and christmas amongst other bits.

saffy85 · 21/04/2011 19:07

Also nothing wrong with converse imo. I love mine having said that I won't can't afford to buy DD real converse nowadays so she have to make do with "pretendy" ones from shoezone/primark.

Sparkletastic · 21/04/2011 19:08

I usually get my girls a birthday outfit but not just clothes. Agree he's being totally ruined by everyone else but could you maybe get him a book or DVD that he really wants? Otherwise, when he's 17, spotty and full of angst, and you are mid-row about his teenage torpor he will bring up the 5th birthday when you only got him clothes as evidence that you never loved him anyway.

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defineme · 21/04/2011 19:08

I would get a token present too- ds1 had a spacehopper and clothes for his birthday. Tbh ds2's was a never used bike off ebay for £20 so I think it's all about the appearance/what the child wants rather than the value.

itsabiggywhatdoidonow · 21/04/2011 19:14

yanbu. I do my dd had £90 worth of vouchers and money last month for birthday off relatives, she spent £20 on an art set and accessories put £20 to save and I spent the rest kitting her out with a summer party dress and summer shorts and trousers and school sandles.

your sounds like my dd and most other kids in that he has enough toys, if he is having a party he will get other bits from friends. If its what he needs go for it, he will love opening some cool clothes.

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itsabiggywhatdoidonow · 21/04/2011 19:17

i wouldnt feel compeled to buy a toy either. my dc wouldnt feel clothes are "boring".

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