to have been telling my DM

[Segreta]

that DP has been employed for the last year, when he hasn't?

She has major anxiety issues, so when DP got a month's worth of work, I let her believe that it was permanent.

Now I am wondering how the fuck to get out of this lie...even though it's been for her benefit.

Now you need to tell even more lies and bigger lies. I hope you have a good memory.

Helpful ,Doll

I have a very good memory thanks. It's how I've been able to deceive her for a over a year for her own good

Why do youneed to tell her the truth?

Can't you just keep up the lie until DH does get more work?

Isn't the way out to say that the work's come to an end? Talk positively about whatever you have planned next.

tell her his contracts up? what else can you do?

No chance of more work really...There really is nothing about and DP has a chronic pain condition

Plumm, only because we live in a town where a lot of people know everyone else. It will come out to her at some point...

I would tell her he's been made redundant due to cutbacks in the current climate.

what angrymomma said

My mum lied to me last year she said that she was working when she really wasn't. When I asked how many hours do you work she said 24hrs my dad, brother and his girlfriend kept the lie going. Until one day I rang when she was meant to be working and she told me that the reason why she lied was because I kept on asking about her day. Since then I can't be bothered with her no more I have washed my hands I can't ring her up and ask her about her day. It is up to you but when you slip up and she finds out that you were lying can you handle the consequences.

can you tell her that after much discussion your dp is going to be a sahd

I shield my mom from stuff as well, but I think I'm trying to protect myself more than her, as she just goes on and on and on about stuff that she's powerless to do anything about. And I can't see the point.

I'm sorry to hear aboiut your situation though.

Sunshine, OP is lying to her mum to protect her feelings, so it's completely different from your situation. Although I think it's strange that your mum didn't like you asking about her day. Surely you were just showing an interest in her.

Thank you all for your replies.

I think the way forward is to say he is going through redundancy again...

Sunshine, you washed you hands of her, because she lied about something like a job? Why was she doing that? Have you ever asked yourself that? Maybe it was to stop you from worrying about her?

probably best now to tell her that dp is no longer working, you didn't tell her because you were concerned that she was going to get upset and that you wanted to protect her. you don't need to tell her how long he has not worked. if she gets cross you need to apologise, admit you were wrong and repeat it was because you loved her.

good luck.

Hi Segreta, I do worry about her, but its a long story and if I was to tell it I don't think any of you would believe that there were such people out there like that. I love my mum because she gave birth to me but thats it. I have 3 lovely girls to be concentrating on rather than chasing a fairy tale of having gramma and grandad around.

Families are complicated you do what feels right for you and don't feel guilty about it you know your mum. If you are going to tell her the truth tell her he has just lost his job so you don't hurt her feelings. Good luck on what ever decision you make.