I think I may be but.....

[angrymomma]

I really hope the tosser who walked off with Ds's Ipod dies a slow extremely painful death as he has been inconsolable all day

sorry, so next week he misses a treat because he might have thrown something out of a window?

that's so utterly unfair on him

he is THREE! any punishment needed to be right then and there, not next week. and not missing out on a completely unrelated treat

i am not getting this thread at all. I agree with other posters that it's really highly unlikely that he threw it out the window at all.

" By the time we had rushed downstairs and outside it was gone, just the protective cover left."

"I was in kitchen saying bye to my mum .....
DS2 raced out of same door 30 seconds later. No hedge just a pebbly front with no fence. He picked up the cover but no ipod."

"At first we thought DS2 had just hidden it in DS1's room somewhere,"- but you didn't, you rushed downstairs to find it...?

so were you upstairs or down? how did you not see it fall if you were looking out of the same door that ds2 raced out of it 30 seconds after it fell?

sorry, i know this is really picky, i just don't really understand what happened

OP I don't understand why you still haven't gone round your neighbours. If you live in a cul-de-sac you must at least know all their faces. Based on your story it's the most obvious thing to do - even before posting on MN.

WE HAVE been round to neighbours, no luck.

Sorry i've prob missed where you told us but how did you find out ds2 had thrown it out of the window? Did anyone see or did he tell you that's what he did?

I tell you what made me think about it...my dd was terrible for taking off with things. She would watch me turn the house over for hours almost in tears of frustration and still not admit to it. The things i've found in her bedroom....she still has secret stashes even now that I come across occasionally. Is it at all possible he might have hidden it somewhere?

Please don't punish dss by not taking him to a picnic. You don't actually know for sure he threw it out of the window and even if he did the punishment has to be instant otherwise it's meaningless and just not never nice.

There is a programme called find iPhone, I have it and I can track ds's iPod touch and do a remote lock and wipe as well as send a message/alarm to it..... Why not try that?

Awful of you to punish ds2 by not taking him on a picnic etc - He is three years old and will not understand what is happening.

YABU in many ways.

and if you saw the couple with the ladder walking past then you must have seen them bend down and pick up the ipod?

none of this makes even the slightest bit of sense

DI yesterday has pretty much summed up my confusion.

I'm really not getting this - you said someone stole the I pod and then added about DS2 throwing it.

Please give us a clearer explanation.

Ok, clearer explanation....DS2 threw Ipod in it's protective cover out the bedroom window. Possibly 30 seconds later DS1 races outside, finds protective cover, no Ipod. I saw a young couple carrying a ladder walking past the house as this was all occurring. So, either they took it or it was a blackbird looking for some bling.

I absolutely understand that this all sounds too incredible to believe. But TBH my whole life this week has been like something out of a Mr Bean film, so if a plane lands in my garden tommorrow, I will be pissed off, but not suprised.

If the cover was rubbish and always falling off, it seems fairly likely that Ipod and cover went their separate ways as they were flying through the air. And therefore Ipod is likely to be broken even if it has been taken by the couple you saw. I don't understand how it can be "blocked" via the serial number but you may well be right.

Well I just think that, as I have the serial number, it could be blocked by Apple. A bit like a credit card...you phone the bank, give them your number and they block it...simples!

May your DS2 have taken the i-pod out to have a play & thrown the cover out?

By throwing the cover out you may all have thought he threw the i-pod out too???

Have a search of the bedroom, it may still be in there :)

I too would be concerned if a 3 year old of mine had access to open windows, let alone started throwing expensive items that don't belong to him out of them. Presumably at 3 he can talk? Have you asked him whether he really threw the ipod itself out of the window or just the cover?

How far is your window from the path?

a three year old WONT learn by denying him a treat a week later, that's like a year in 3's world! you need to punish there and then, then move on. sorry but that part is BU.

totally agree that punishing him next week for something he may have done is very unreasonable for a three year old.
If you want him to learn consequences, then they must be immediate - bringing something up a week later is just cruel, and mean - that is ALL he would take from that, not any potential lesson about not throwing. Even for a ten year old that would be too much and too late imo.
All it will do is make him feel got at and hounded - what if he's been a brilliant boy that day, all day - for a three year old, one day is a very long time. Then suddenly mum is mean to him and says he can't go because of something he did aaaaages ago? All it will teach him is you're being mean to him.