Help me with this one please. I was lucky enough to be housed by a HA in December due to my DS?s SN (ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and learning difficulties as a result). It?s a lovely 2 bed house with a garden and I feel so fortunate to have it.
When I moved in the housing officer said she wasn?t sure what my parking space was and to ask neighbours/other tenants. I did this and they directed me to a spot at the side of the house by my back gate. I should say here this is a double space in front of another neighbour?s house which is set back from my house. Other tenants told me that all previous tenants who have had this house had parked in this space.
On the day I collected the keys I parked there while I sorted out a few bits in preparation for the next day when the main stuff was coming. I had been there no longer than an hour when a note was pushed through the door. It was from the neighbour who has both spaces in front of her house. The note said both spaces were hers and I should park elsewhere. I moved the car straight away and found a different spot ? it was a bit further away and during the ice and snow made it hard for DS who falls over easily. The spot next to my house remained empty and other tenants started muttering about it being my ?spot? again.
I managed for a few weeks before a resident told me I had been using her parking space and should be parking at the side of my house. I pointed out that the tenant whose house this space was in front of had told me the double parking spot was hers ? cue much gnashing of teeth about ?the cheeky cow? and ?nobody has two spaces?.
I rang the housing officer again who could barely conceal her irritation and told me to park ?up the end on the left?. I moved the car there and managed a few weeks before another tenant said that those spaces were for the houses the other side of them who had no other parking.
I rang the housing officer again who with barely concealed irritation told me to ?park on the road outside your house? and ?I?ll send for the original plans but they will take weeks?.
This was two months ago I have parked outside my house ever since while the spot next to my back gate remains empty apart from one evening a week when a friend calls to the neighbour. Last weekend another vehicle hit my car during the night ? no note left natch so I now have £100 to find in excess which I can ill afford. As the space (which everyone says should be using) is mostly unused I have now begun parking there. I knocked at my neighbours door to explain why but there was no reply (I am told she does not answer the door often) so I popped a note in explaining why I had parked there and also commented that other tenants were telling me this is where I should be parking. Nothing for two days and then a note (I was in and would have answered the door had she knocked but she seems to communicate in notes 
). It basically said she had made a complaint to the HA as they had not given me a parking space. She also commented that both spots were hers as the developers told her this when she moved in. She is a HA tenant like me so I am a bit puzzled about an allocation of two parking spaces. No parking bays are numbered.
I just want to park my car when I get home from work or from the school ? preferably in the same spot (or thereabouts) due to DS?s ASD and need for routine and safety. Have written to the HA now ? hand delivered letter but a week later there has been no response ? not even an acknowledgement of my letter.
So ? AIBU in parking where every other tenant tells me I should be parking ie where all the other tenants of this house have parked. Or is my neighbour BU in expecting the space to be left empty for friends or relatives. For anyone working for a HA ? is it likely two spaces would be allocated for two bed house? Just anxious to avoid doing the wrong thing ? am trying to keep everyone happy but appear to be pissing them all off in the process.
If you've read to the end of this then thank you.