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AIBU?

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To be annoyed at how my Aunt is being treated?

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lesley33 · 20/04/2011 00:28

Visited my Aunt tonight who was moaning about her DD and family. DD and her DD OH work long hours during the week. They have 3 children. They seem to guilt trip my Aunt into looking after them nearly all of the time.

She collects all 3 children from school, feeds them and looks after them until their parents get home. She also looks after them for 1 weekend out of two, because her DD says that her and her OH need a rest sometimes. My Aunt complains about this, but still looks after the children. My Aunt has in the past also looked after the children while her DD and partner went on holiday without the children.

My Aunt has just got back from a holiday with her DD and family. She was complaining that she felt they just took her along as a babysitter as she spent nearly the whole holiday looking after the children while her DD and partner enjoyed themselves.

I know it is none of my business - but I am angry that my Aunt is being treated like this. I know she should stand up for herself, but she has always been timid and finds it hard to say no and I think her DD is taking advantage of this.

My Aunt is 72 years old and should be enjoying her retirement IMO. I know she would be more than happy to help out with babysitting, but what she is doing is practically raising the children herself. BTW I know there is no point in me saying anything. My very articulate mother has tried and was basically told to mind her own business. AIBU to be annoyed at this situation?

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GypsyMoth · 20/04/2011 00:36

yanbu!

TastesLikePanda · 20/04/2011 00:38

Obviously YANBU but I don't know that you can do anything about it...

lesley33 · 20/04/2011 00:42

No I don't think I can do anything. TBH I feel pretty resigned to it as I know that my Aunt won't stick up for herself and her DD seems determined to take advantage of her.

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TastesLikePanda · 20/04/2011 00:45

Hmm - naughty thought... could she start doing things that they wouldn't like? Feeding them nothing but e-numbers and sugar? Showing them films with (mild) swearing in them so they repeat all the words? Sign them up to facebook?

DontGoCurly · 20/04/2011 01:18

YADNBU

Invite your Aunt to yours for Easter and treat her like a Queen, don't let this selfish daughter abuse her.

All you can do is kidnap your Aunty and pamper her and watch the selfish daughter try to cope with her own kids over the holidays.

iscream · 20/04/2011 03:32

Yanbu. I agree, be super nice to your aunt, maybe invite her to stay for a week end here and there, and make sure she feels loved and special.

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