DH is an abuse survivor. Every day his mother would beat him up, sexually abuse him, lock him in the cellar, etc. His dad was away with the RAF and didn't know until DH was 15, when his mother fucked off with one of her many lovers.
DH had pretty tough teens, alcoholism, self harm etc, then ended up married to an abusive woman. Finally broke away, and in 2002 met me, we are now married with 2 DCs and a great relationship with his 3 older DCs. Things are good. He's not been in contact with his mother (or much with his sisters, who didn't face the same level of abuse) for several years, and doesn't suffer stress migraines, flashbacks etc like he used to.
Anyway, skip to now. DH has a prolapsed disc. And I know it could be SO much worse healthwise, I honestly do, but it still sucks. He's gone from an active fun man to someone who can barely walk some days. He's been off work for about 8 months and financially things are dire. He is losing weight and very stressed. We all are.
So today he had a physio session. It basically transpires that there is more severe damage than initially thought, and this has been caused by all the physical trauma in childhood. Surgery is unlikely to work so he may actually never get better enough to work in his career again, or run like he used to, or even walk without crutches.
It's really knocked him for six hearing that the abuse is so involved in this injury. He cried in the appointment, which he hasn't done for years. He's worked so hard to 'get over' what happened - so far as you can get over something like that - and now she's ruined everything all over again.