would i be wrong to phone up next doors landlord to complain ?

[bandylegs]

The house next door to me rented by a un-married mother of five ds's . Since moving in 6 months ago she has moved her boyfriend of 10days in (she told me this whilst bragging that she had just met him ) and the boyfriend has turned the garden shed into a bird shed and now has 8 pigeons flying around crapping on all my washing
Her two middle boys (10 & 13) are bullying my ds (12) it has gotten to the stage where my ds will not go out to play at all and yesterday as ds was putting out the bin for me the 10yr old next door threw a 5ft wooden curtain poll at my window (thankfully no damage was done) i knocked in to tell his mum but she left me standing at the front door for ages and when she eventually came out to me she just said " it wont happen again" and closed the door smiling at me . Her 15yr old is expelled from school and spends most of his time smoking out in the back garden playing his music .
I know the owner of that house and i have his mobile number {he gave me his number in case of any trouble} would i be wrong to phone him up and tell him whats going on or AIBU ?
TIA

Sounds like a TV show!

Poor you if it's really real!

Well I'd tell him about the pidgeons, and I assume she is on benefits, the rest of the stuff is bog standard what you sometimes get from living next door to someone.

Ok Ms Judgey McHolierthanThou...

Maybe the Landlord knows?Whats it to you?

Sometimes people have waaaay to much time on their hands...

If you dont like her why are you gossiping away to her? So you can get more info to judge her?Or get her removed? Shame on you....

Bloody hell, definiely phone him before it gets worse. It's in his interest too as it sounds like they will wreck the house too.

Sorry i don't blame you for not believing me but i am a regular that has name changed as i feel terrible for even considering phoning up the landlord
Oh and i forgot to mention their 2 dogs that bark all day long (but not at night thankfully as she lets them indoors to sleep)

ok.

First of all, her marital status is irrelevant. As is how many children she has and how long she's known her boyfriend. None of those things affect you in any way and as far as I can see, are just looking down your nose at the type of person you perceive an unmarried mother of 5 with a new boyfriend to be. I am surprised you didn't speculate on the number of fathers. You have likely lost the chance for good advice with that, because you can expect a pasting now for that bit.

Pigeon mess is not on - talk to them about that. and about the bullying.

If you get no joy from them, then yes, complain to the landlord. But give them the chance to sort out the birds and the kids first.

I would ring. You have every right to enjoy your life, as does your son, and these people are stopping that.

Agree with BeerTricks Def ring the benefits cheatline too, if she's a single mum she's bound to be scrounging.

Seriously though, do your best to sort it out with her first and then if you get no joy then ring the landlord. Some of it may constitute as anti-social behaviour and as the landlord he has a duty to try and sort it out.

Good luck!

I thought i might get a pasting hence the name change .

She was very friendly with me the first week she moved in . She changed though completely when her boyfriend moved in . I do not gossip with her at all
She just said hello to me one morning with her boyfriend standing beside her (i don't know his name) and when he got into the car she grinned at me and said " i only met him 10 days ago isn't he lovely" . I don't know if she is on benefits she is a SAHM as am i .

I can't see why the landlord wouldhave any interest in your speculations about this lady. Discuss with her the influence her sons are having on your son . That's where your attentionshould be focussed.

You wouldn't have got a pasting if you'd simply mentioned the relevent things.

My neighbour's boyfriend keeps pigeons and they are crapping all over my washing.
and my neighbour's children are bullying my son and they've thrown something at my window.

what should I do?

You really didn't need to put in the 'unmarried mother of 5 just moved a strange man in' judgyfest.

I have already spoken to her about her sons - yesterday when i called in to tell her what her 10yr old had done . All she said was "it won't happen again" and closed the door . Today ds went to the shop at the end of my road and was chased home by her 13yr old threatening to "beat him up"

Police.

Do not mess about with things like that.

Hecate I really hate it when they do that in the tabloids. Always pointing out age and her status when it's totally unnecessary.

Same as Hecate really, I'm struggling to give you advice as it sounds like you are simply judging her first and foremost, and the nuisances come second.

Having said that, as a landlady, I really wish our neighbours had called us to let us know what was going on with our last tenant. We might then not have to spend so much money now sorting out all the damage that she, her son and dog have caused. They were a total nightmare to live with apparently, but sadly our neighbours felt too intimidated to say anything.
Still in too minds about calling the cheatline, but we know she was fiddling things, whereas presumably people are advising you simply by stereotype.

Answering a question asked is very different from making it your first sentence in your OP

I'm not really sure how having 5 children, a new boyfriend, being unmarried indicate a 'type' like that.

Oh, you have 5 children and no husband. You clearly are the irresponsible piss taking type.

The other things described - yes. Fair enough. Piss taking doesn't give a shit about others, yes. But the first bit was prejudice, plain and simple.

Having 5 children does not make you a piss taker. Nor does being unmarried. Nor does moving fast with a new boyfriend.

I moved my bloke in the day I met him and married him 3 months later! Been married 13 years now. I'm no irresponsible piss taker.

Ok i admit i went about my op in the wrong manner. I
did not want to be accused of drip feeding.

I do not want to phone the benefit cheat line as i don't
know if she is claiming Benefits.

Ok i admit i went about my op in the wrong manner. I
did not want to be accused of drip feeding.

I do not want to phone the benefit cheat line as i don't
know if she is claiming Benefits.

Ok i admit i went about my op in the wrong manner. I
did not want to be accused of drip feeding.

I do not want to phone the benefit cheat line as i don't
know if she is claiming Benefits.