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to not make dh meals/washing/ until he realised I am not his dogs body

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slavewife · 19/04/2011 07:41

Name changed for this as dh knows my username.

Friday I spring cleaned the whole house, it took from 8am, to 9pm (got rid of everything, clothes, toys, uni work etc)...

I worked all weekend,(fri, sat and sun) and left dh a spotless house, I always leave after our dinner (5.30pm) and come home in the small hours. on all these days, I came in, to all the night before dinners, unwashed dinning table, children's clothes where they took them off, including the bath towels, bath water and toys left in, (they are toddlers) dh clothes NEXT to the washing basket etc... toys everywhere.

ds was sick last night, all over the front room floor and his bedding, ds cleaned it with kitchen roll, and that was it Hmm

so after working all day and night, Ive came into a house that is cluttered and dirty, I always leave dh a nice, clean lovely house.

so today, Ive got to mop, sweep and bleach, bedding to rinse and wash (left in babies bedroom Hmm) all worktops to clean, dh clothes in the washing basket, yesterdays dishes, and washing, that I asked dh to do before I left for work. Oh and his cup and his cereal and toast bowl that's he left on the dinning room table, while it still has yesterdays food on it Angry

I would not mind if these we're one offs, but it has become daily now, every day when I am at work, and no amount of shouting, nagging will he listen too.

and the fecking bastard has left a note to take his mobile to the nearest repair centre!

Great start to my day!!!!

OP posts:
Truckstop · 19/04/2011 09:53

Is that how you talk to him?

Original poster
slavewife · 19/04/2011 09:56

No, just numbnuts!

OP posts:
BooJonesMummy · 19/04/2011 09:59

I've done it. It took until we literally had no more plates and he had no clean clothes what so ever but he suddenly realised how much I actually do while he's at work and he's started putting his own jeans in the washing machine an not leaving it last minute to tell me he MUST have that shirt tonight!

chicletteeth · 19/04/2011 10:02

To be fair, if you've always cleaned up after him in the past, why wouldn't he expect you to continue doing so? Not that I'm saying it's right, but unless you tell him you're unhappy with it, he's not going to put two and two together.

Have a chat with him first and tell him you're unhappy with his behaviour and that it's unfair and you are not a servant.

If he doesn't see the error of his ways and start pulling his weight, then go on strike without notice

zipzap · 19/04/2011 10:50

Hope text msg wasn't to phone that he has left for you to repair otherwise he's never going to get the message Grin

sorry couldn't resist!

EggyFucker · 19/04/2011 11:52

ignore the juvenile male poster

Truckstop · 19/04/2011 12:39

Ignore the juvenile poster follow the erudite and mature advice such as:

'post his mobile in his stupid gob'

QuickLookBusy · 19/04/2011 12:50

Well the rest of the advise has been erudite and mature Truckstop

Truckstop · 19/04/2011 12:54

All I said was perhaps he's fed-up.

If he's been doing his share and has now stopped so perhaps there is a reason.

EggyFucker · 19/04/2011 15:46

truck...if someone treated you like a skivvy and then added insult to injury by making a throwaway command to post his mobile off wouldn't you say something like "I'd rather post it in your stupid gob"

because I certainly would

I think the OP got the context...you would rather just shit-stir, apparently

Get0rfMoiLand · 19/04/2011 15:57

Eggy please can you come and have a look at the 'my wife is giving me no loving' thread as perhaps I am too cynical for my own good

Cat98 · 19/04/2011 16:09

Ok, some of the comments to truckstop have been unnecessary and borderline sexist. I thought s/he was actually making a jokey comment, that maybe he was being passive aggressive, and going 'on strike' with out stating his grievance?! Op - you are being taken advantage of, yes. But tell him! Tell him you're not doing it any more and why. And stick to your guns..

EggyFucker · 19/04/2011 16:59

sexist cat ?

is juvenile a sexist term ?

is male a sexist term ?

truck is male and made a juvenile comment

a juvenile female poster may have made a similar one (but didn't, interestingly)

Cat98 · 19/04/2011 17:13

That's why I said borderline sexist. Why is the fact that he is male relevant? I don't like the tone of that post, any more than I like the tone of some men when they say something along the lines of 'bloody woman'. A few posts had a similar tone - as though he wasn't welcome to comment because he is male. Just not relevant. You don't like his comment - fine, say so, but his sex has nothing to do with it.

prettymuchapixiegirl · 19/04/2011 17:43

I would go on strike like some of the others have suggested, OP. The fact that he didnt' even clean up his own child's sick properly is disgusting, and things like leaving bathwater in and last night's dinner still on the plates are just downright disrespectful towards you.

Cat98 · 19/04/2011 19:12

"I take it you're a bloke. truckstop?"

"ignore the juvenile male poster".

To clarify, having looked back over the thread, these are the two phrases that I felt were uncalled for/borderline sexist. Eggyfucker, I usually agree with your posts particularly your relationship advice. I do think this type of comment shows a double standard though. Sorry!

DuelingFanjo · 19/04/2011 19:17

I agree with Get0rfMoiLand. strangeness.

clam · 19/04/2011 19:31

pmsl at the suggestion that I might be sexist!!! Grin Grin Grin

EggyFucker · 19/04/2011 19:34

you don't have to be sorry, cat

you are allowed to disagree

perhaps if you were familiar with truckstops "style", though, you may have a slightly different perspective < shrug >

Truckstop · 19/04/2011 20:22

I didn't realise I had a style.

I haven't posted on here since February and that was with a different name.
Nice to be noticed though.

Cat98 · 19/04/2011 20:44

Clam - sorry, I don't recognise your user name, haven't seen any of your other posts - can only go by your post here which was a bit sexist!

EF - I am not familiar with it. Again., only going by the info on the thread.

kaid100 · 19/04/2011 21:59

Sorry how will he get the text message if his mobile phone is broken? He's got more than one mobile? That point aside, the words in the text you sent him were well chosen.

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