Men who don't eat their vegetables

[SafeAndHappyNow]

I am recently single - have namechanged - and am just dipping my toe in the water with regard to getting out more and having a social life again.

Instead of dating, (because I'm too scared at the moment lol) I have joined a couple of local mixed social groups and am going out with people that way. Lots of the events organised involve food.

Now, obviously, I am kinda looking for a new potential boyfriend - but an awful lot of men at these events aren't eating their vegetables - I'm serious by the way.

AIBU to find this really childish? I thought it was just children who refused to eat their veg.

It's putting me off men that might otherwise be OK.

YANBU. It would put me off too.

Um, I wouldn't care less. They're adults - they can eat what they like.

YAdefinitelyNBU!!! Any adult, of any gender, who is fussy about food pisses me off, but grown-ups not eating vegetables is the pits. Grow the feck up, I say.

Are you looking for a boyfriend or to adopt a child?

Why? Lots of vegetables are horrible. You're not their mother. I would think someone tutting about what they are or aren't eating would be way more off-putting.

I think it's important that you find a man who meets your specific needs, personally I have requirements that loom larger in my mind than him eating his 5 a day.
I'd find a man who wanted me to eat my veg up as part of my date a bit odd.

YANBU at all!

when i was single, my main benchmark for potential 'suitors' (love that word ) was table manners!

can't be doing with fork-biters or fuss-pots.

i'm sure there was a psychological study into the way we eat divulges what sort of lover we are.......

I like some vegetables, not others. If food arrives with vegetables that I have not specifically ordered, sometimes I won't eat them.

I wouldn't want to date a fussy eater but it sounds as if you may be being overly harsh.

By the way "eat your vegetables" sounds rather patronising. Something about them being their vegetables or his vegetables rather than just vegetables.

I wouldn't let it put you off Men. It may just be that they don't like the veg on offer and if round for dinner and faced with a veg curry, for example, would eat them just fine.

My DH used to be fussy when it comes to veg. I blame the MiL who didn't think a vegetable was cooked unless it was soft enough to spread (bleurgh).

Ah Beaker someone who thinks exactly like me.

I'd be interested to read that study somewhere.

Yeah, lots of messy eaters too.

I would avoid a man who was fussy about food or ate no vegetables. I like vegetables and it sets a poor example to children.
Most men I know ignore salad garnishes though, my husband regards them as a decoration and not really for eating, although he will eat proper salads (but isn't a big salad fan).
Sometimes pub meal vegetables are overcooked mush or hard pea bullets though.

Well YANBU in a way, I'd be a bit put off by an adult fussy eater... unless of course he is totally gorgeous

YANBU. It would put me right off. And DSis married a man like that. He had angina by his early 50s, and had to have several stents put in a blocked artery.

This is natural selection telling you these men are not a long term bet.

Plus if they eat like 2 year olds, what other undesirable toddler behaviour are they going to display?

am sure going to get into trouble with this googling lark [gulp]

can't find the link, but basically it said that given a bowl of fruit, you would be able to gauge how committed a person was by the fruit they chose, and what sort of lover they'd be if they ate it.

ie

orange - if a person chose this then they would be most committed as it takes a lot of preparation to eat it. peeling, pips etc

someone who chose a peach and sunk their teeth right in but ate it quietly without too much mess was deemed the most 'desirable'

You expect people to eat food they don't like? My son is 23 he never eats vegetables. But does eat a healthy diet otherwise.

snigger

A man with scurvy is never going to be attractive is he? If you are looking for a partner you are naturally going to want someone who looks after himself - and that means eating his five a day like a big boy!

[Running off now before I get tomatoes thrown at me!]

FabbyChic, I dunno, i guess I was just expecting grown men to eat vegetables. It just seems, well, toddlerish not to.

Actually cheeky, tomatoes are fruit, not vegetables.

YANBU

Everyone has some foods that they dislike. Even a date with Brad Pitt would not convince me to eat fennel. But a fussy eater and does not eat vegetables would suggest to me that a) they are unadventurous and not open to trying new things and b) that they do not take care of their health. Two perfectly good reasons not to be in a relationship with him.

YANBU. It would put me off. I don't like faddy eaters either. Maybe they follow some misguided theory that "real men don't eat vegetables".

I judge adults who don't eat vegetables. YANBU

I was thinking more along the lines of in the stocks Peasant.

I agree with you, SAfe - my ex had appalling eating habits, and as such was an unhealthy idiot.

unfortunately, he did eat his veg, so I couldn't use it as a reason.
However, when someone thinks that a fag and a coffee for breakfast follwed by an apple and a banana for lunch, then breaded fish with peas for tea.
and then 2 bags of crisps and 3 cans of beer.

Typical week-day food, and i'm not exaggerating.

YANBU - I cannot stand fussy eaters, FIL is very fussy and I have not yet managed a full meal when he and MIL visit where he hasn't grumbled about something. Last week I watched as MIL scraped the almond slices off his trifle as he doesn't like them. I don't think I could face a future of that kind of thing. IMO it is very childish.