to not want to be touched constantly?

[susiewoos]

DH and DS aged 5 always seem to want to either cuddle me, hold me or kiss me, its driving me nuts. I feel my body isnt mine anymore and it makes me feel knackered. How do I stop this without them feeling rejected and me not looking like a cold hearted cow?

Has something changed?

stop bathing and fart a lot

ohhh, YABU. I love to kiss and cuddle both my DS who is 5, my DS who is 1 and my DH. Invariably it is me chasing the kisses etc. DS2 is too young and busy running about to be kissed, DS1 likes kisses, but I can always give him more and DH is too knackered to bother generally

Susie, is there a reason you feel like this?

shall try the last one but may lose friends as well

I know how you feel. I often want to run out of the house screaming to be left alone for 5 minutes. Cuddles, love and attention are lovely, they really are. And cuddles from your child are the best. But sometimes the endless demands for attention from everyone, leaving you not time to even breathe, let alone meet your own needs, is smothering and exhausting.

Go hide in your room and read a book for a few minutes. Works wonders for me!

Funnysinthegarden I love them both but its feels that my body isnt my own, my Dh gets upset if I dont let him touch me when he wants too.

YANBU - let DP get stroppy, tis your body and if you don't want to be touched then so be it.

Annie you sound just like me, its smothering aaargh.

Get a dog and start going for long walks. Or lock yourself in the loo. Or just tell your DH that just because you need your own personal space sometimes it doesn't mean that you don't love him and DS.

you do need time on your own. DH and I both belong to different gyms and frequently run out of the house screaming and have an hour or so to our selves. We relay it sometimes, like today. I went out for 2 hours and the moment I got in he legged it. The DC have been particularly trying today.

YANBU at all to want time and space for yourself. DC cuddles are one thing, DH 'cuddles' are totally another!

YABU - but so am I. I have issues with being touched and mauled too much - as a kid my Mum called me the 'prickly' one because being hugged got my hackles up. I used to get mad at my sisters for slobbering on her. Now as a parent unfortunately I still find it hard to accept being hugged and kissed all the time. It is a concious effort not to flinch when my lovely 7 year old daughter comes over to give me a big hug and a kiss, or wants to stroke my arm or something. It's easier if I innitiate the hugging - but still a concious effort. It sucks. It is miserable. We are freaks.

flyingspaghettimonster - quite right! DD1 likes to hang on to my arm, hugging it and kissing my hand, and I hate it! It takes all my self-control not to snatch my arm away and run. I have to just delicately exctract her on the pretence of some chore that needs doing. Not sure why having my hand kissed gives me the creeps but it does.

On the other hand, I could sit with my girls snuggled up next to me on the sofa all day long. Weird how some contact is lovely but some is yukky!

Getting a dog and going for long walks sounds like an ideal solution.

YANBU.

I love getting cuddles from my DS and wish he would just sit and cuddle me sometimes but I don't like being constantly climbed on or having him right in my face all the time. Some of my friends children don't leave them alone and it drives me mad just watching.

I also don't like it if DH comes and cuddles me when I am right in the middle of doing something, its fucking irritating!

YANBU I had to have words kindly explain to DH that once DD was in bed I needed an hour to reclaim my body before he could even think about a cuddle. DD is over me all day (worse atm because of the holidays) and I am touched out by the evening.

Luckily my screaming politely informing him has worked thus far.