To consider complaining about this guy to his boss?

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I have just had quite a shock.

I love chinese food and order us a takeaway about once or twice a month (I know, what a glutton). Anyway, have noticed over last 4 - 5 months same guy always delivers, Ive ordered from this same takeaway since I was a teenager and this guy is new I assume. Hes always nice, I say hi, thankyou ect ect like I do with anyone. Last time he came he tried to make a bit more conversation but I politely told him had to go before my DD escaped out the door looking for the bloody cat again.
Anyway, guy has now just turned up....at my house, when I have NOT ordered chinese, and is casually chatting me up. Its made me feel quite uncomfortable actually, in a "you know where I live" sort of way.
Yes its flattering and I dont want to be a bitch but it's freaked me out. Should I phone the takeaway and say something?

politely tell him you are not interested, and that he must only come to your house to deliver the food.

YANBU

What this man did is highly inappropriate and creepy. I can't believe anyone would think you should put up with it. Phone the chinese and report the incident and ask for them to send any future deliveries to your address with someone else, if they want to retain your custom.

I would complain, clearly, not subtly, to his employers. He has used information gleaned during his employment to stalk you.

I had a similar thing with a chap who worked in a shop opposite my work, who kept pestering me for a date. He seemed to think because I came in there to get my paper, I fancied him. Sometimes people from other cultures make assumptions that some others would not.

Maybe use it as a chance to cut down on the takeaways too!

Really inappropriate and would freak me out. No decent considerate man who had any sense of boundaries would turn up uninvited to a stranger's house whose address he had only by virtue of his work to chat them up. There are plenty of non- threatening ways he would have expressed his interest like popping a card in with the delivery with his telephone no saying no pressure to call or waiting till he is leaving his job to say he is moving on but he will miss saying hello to you. sadly I think you have to change Chinese restaurant. How annoying! although I think you should speak to the restaurant about it I would personally be a bit afraid to do this but you need to judge this bloke's character from the little you know of him.

This would seriously freak me out! I like the 'darling, food is here' idea and also suggest borrowing some (large!) male clothes from a friend & hanging them in your garden a few times (um, I did this when an ex hung around & scared me!)

Afraid not, sorry! Would love to be though... Just lived above drug dealers and next door to a brothel in a mildly dodgy area and came up with a few ways of feeling a bit more secure! I lived with 4 boys, but they were all terrifyingly weedy and the front door was down a big flight of stairs so I was always scared that someone would charge it if I answered. I used to shout "door" and they all had to come and stand menacingly at the top of the stairs if they left me to answer it. But when my online shopping arrived they would all troop downstairs and carry it up.

My mum had a friend's rugby playing son visit for when estate agents sent viewers round. Unfortunately said rugby player turned up on crutches, so would have been totally useless had viewers turned out to be crazed axe wielders...

i will also make a complain, thats certainly make you worried, thats not nice at all, you dont know if he is going to came a gain or not, so dont wait for for it happen again, just put a stop to it, even if he want to know you i dont think he is got any respect by knoking the door like that, he can find other ways, specialy he knows when you live, can talk to you outside, but not in your doorstep, this realy has to stop if you're not happy with it.

Can you invent an OH, perhaps who works away a lot? Oil-rig, forces, merchant navy?

yes that's true, you can also have a partner that's not living with you, father of your child, anyway, i dont think you have to go to all thats detail, just make a stop to it, make it clear, so he knows who he's dealing with.

It's not normal behaviour, it's freaky stalker-time.

I'd get take-aways from somewhere else and complain to his boss.

W BOE S

Nothing creepy about that. Fella has taken a shine to you, tried to introduce himself. He wont be able to do it when delivering your chinese as it will get cold.

If he does it again and you're not interested say get lost.