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AIBU?

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To not buy my children Easter eggs or Easter presents?

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brassick · 17/04/2011 10:12

My children obviously think so!

They get gifts and/or eggs from relatives, in fact I have always asked that if relatives wanted to buy them something for Easter that it be a gift rather than chocolate. But I have never seen the need to buy them anything myself.

My dd's do not want for anything & I don't see why I should be guilted into buying them chocolate (which I do buy them anyway more or less every week) or gifts for a Christian festival which we do not celebrate, being non-religious, and which, like many of these festivals, have been turned into a consumer fest.

I don't think I've come across anyone else in real life who doesn't buy their children anything at Easter-IABU? And is there anyone else out there like me?

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Zippylovesgeorge · 17/04/2011 10:45

As I said on the other thread - I buy something small - this year Lindt bunnies for my children - what the rest of the family do is up to them. They were both given a small easter egg yesterday by an Auntie and I know their Gt-Grandma has something for them too.

I never ration the chocolate - the sooner its gone the less likely it is the chocolate mouse will pinch some ;)

edam · 17/04/2011 10:45

I do miss getting an Easter card from my (late) Gran, though. She was the only person who ever sent us cards (she was RC, we are not). Every year it makes me think of her and get a bit sad.

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 17/04/2011 10:47

5 eggs? and more to come? mine got 2 each, which was 1 each too many imo

So it's not that they want more eggs, it's that they want an egg from YOU?

confuseddotcodotuk · 17/04/2011 10:49

I don't think YABU. My parents never got me or my sisters any easter eggs and bits for the same reasons. We might get a few little bits of chocolate or a bit of extra money for the penny sweets, but that was it!

kormachameleon · 17/04/2011 10:51

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IWillCountToThree · 17/04/2011 10:51

I never spend more than £10 each on the DCs. This year they're laden down with eggs, none of which we've bought, and we've got them mini MP3 players for our trip abroad later this year. £16 for all 3 of them.

This is something we'd have bought anyway, so why not attatch it to something rather than them getting treats for no reason?

Easter shellfish edam ? Never heard of that one! :o

bristolcities · 17/04/2011 10:54

What about the Easter Bunny?

LadyOfTheManor · 17/04/2011 10:56

I don't teach the Easter erm Bunny. Obviously, as he doesn't exist.

I teach about the resurrection of Christ though. I'd probably teach erm about spring and erm life if I was a Pagan though.

usualsuspect · 17/04/2011 11:00

Eggs are only a quid in Asda ...get them an egg

bristolcities · 17/04/2011 11:01

Do you not have Father Christmas or the tooth fairy either?

Easter in our house is as big as Christmas. The children have a big Easter hunt. It seems every one down our what does it. The children have even been to a huge Easter egg hunt organised by a well known neighbour.

LadyOfTheManor · 17/04/2011 11:03

No I don't.

Poor children, eh?

bristolcities · 17/04/2011 11:06

Well what they haven't had they can't miss, so no need to be defensive.

alexpolismum · 17/04/2011 11:08

I have not bought a single egg, and yet the house seems to be full of them, from relatives and friends. Plus all the Easter candles given to my children. Quite what I'm supposed to do with it all I don't know.

Definitely not unreasonable not to buy any eggs - they don't need any more, as you say they already have some from other people, it doesn't need to have been specifically bought by you.

worraliberty · 17/04/2011 11:10

Oh jeez I didn't realise we're talking about a teenager and an 11yr old lol

Surely if they've come this far without them, it's a bit late to start moaning now?

GwendolineMaryLacey · 17/04/2011 11:14

Why is Easter going the same way as Christmas? That's a cop out. We have never bought presents instead of eggs for Easter. We buy eggs and they have been getting smaller as we are realising that no one needs that much chocolate so very much to £1-2 eggs as opposed to the £5-6 eggs we would have bought previously. The only person to get a present is any baby in the family who might get a small duck or rabbit of a similar price.

Don't buy an egg by all means although I think it's one of those times when imposing your opinions on others isn't fair, but don't claim it's because Easter is commerialised because that's bullshit.

justpaddling · 17/04/2011 11:17

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HappyMummyOfOne · 17/04/2011 11:43

YABU to pecify relatives buy a gift but not an egg, thats rude and grasping. Eggs are very cheap whereas a present will cost more.

For the sake of a £1 egg, do you want your chidlren growing up remembering that they never got an egg from their parents?

lljkk · 17/04/2011 11:59

I never buy DC chocolate eggs or an Easter present.

the quality of the chocolate is pants unless you spend a lot
I don't like them having so sugar much at once, I don't want the job of making sure they consume it at slow rate, either
I have lots of dental fillings (painful, expensive, unpleasant) and am anxious to generally keep DC sugar intake down to reduce their risk of the same
I am foreign, big chocolate eggs in garish excess packaging not my tradition. English DH could buy them one if he wanted (he doesn't bother)
They got a s**tload of sweets from the school Easter Fayre, so they already got a bigger sugar binge (on me) than I would have liked
Likely but not definite that one of the grannies will buy them a chocolate egg, one is plenty enough
Presents for Easter would be okay if we didn't have a present binge at Christmas and for Birthdays already. Too indulgent to have yet another such occasion, though.
Since DC have never had one off me, they don't miss what they've never had ... although they complain bitterly about the way other kids at school brag at how many they got. (sigh)

manticlimactic · 17/04/2011 12:29

I haven't bought my DD an egg for about 5 years now. She gets loads from her gran and uncles/aunts so have an egg mountain for weeks. I usually have to throw or give them to my mate as DD gets bored with chocolate.

I cleared out the cupboard under the stairs the other week and found some from last year (unfortunately they were out of date).

EasterEggsHaveNoCalories · 17/04/2011 12:49

I only ever got eggs from parents, grannies and if I was lucky, one aunt so never got or expected lots. I remember being really upset once my parents split up that my father didn't buy us eggs (didn't believe in them, all just commercial rubbish) then opened the boot of his car to reveal two nice big eggs for our cousins whom he was visiting later! I will get my ds an egg when he is old enough, if you buy them on offer it doesn't cost more per 100g than buying a bar and they taste better (and have no calories!).

I'm not a Christian either, I'm honouring the ancient pagan symbols of fertility to welcome in the Spring

goodbyemrschips · 17/04/2011 12:57

Good God you can buy a decent egg for under a fiver or a smarties or choc buttons one for £1.

I have bought my son 10 £1 ones.

He will get from the family so will have about 20.

The amount of choc in an egg is less than a bar of choc, some miserys out there..

My son is 9 never had a filling...i am 42 last filling was when i was 13 , i have two......and i had dozens of eggs at easter

Journey · 17/04/2011 13:03

Buy them an Easter egg and stop being so mean.

Why do some people think it is okay for other people to buy things for their DCs but won't do the same themselves? I think this attitude stinks.

If you can't be bothered parting with the money or going to the shop to buy an egg then don't expect anything from relatives/friends.

What a cheek asking for a gift instead of an egg. Can it get any worse?

GloriaSmut · 17/04/2011 13:14

I managed to keep ds1 away from chocolate until the Easter just before his 2nd birthday. I wasn't being mean, just felt that while he didn't know what he was missing, it was a good opportunity to avoid tons of chocolate. But once he had discovered the joy of an Easter egg - and I also celebrate pagan festivals rather than Christian ones - he and his younger brother got eggs. It seemed somehow joyless to deny them the pleasure of getting an Easter egg and their grandparents the pleasure of giving one.

The expectation of getting presents at Easter is another thing altogether and increasingly seems to be just another way of making parents feel inferior if they don't shower their children with gifts on yet another over-commercialised occasion.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 17/04/2011 13:20

Not a smidgen of relion attached to anything in our house, im all for the comercialism me

Easter: The easter bunny wakes up after a long winters sleep and brings spring and to celebrate he will give gifts to all the good little girls and boys he will hide little chocs around the house/garden for you to find and he even leaves something (a bottle of wine!) for mommy and daddy for leaving him a carrot to munch :)

We will have a big yummy dinner with lots of cakes afterwards.
Im getting excited now!

BabyDubsEverywhere · 17/04/2011 13:21

bum, my typing is getting worse! sorry folkes

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