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AIBU?

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to be really bugged by this

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ExeterisEasy · 16/04/2011 23:30

im not really into professional moaning/taking offence for the sake of taking offence but this has really irritated me.

was watching come dine with me on channel 4 tonight with youngest (almost 8) - it finished at six thirty. yes that's six thirty. the credits roll..then there's an advert. for the sex education show. "how big will a boy's penis get" and "is it safe to have sex when im on my period". now i have no issue with the sex education show, it starts at 9 - if your kids are up at 9 pm then presumably they are old enough or you have decided you dont mind them watching the programme.

i find it really really REALLY inappropriate that they use THAT advert at half six. i mean fgs my kid is 8 on tuesday and i dont want her saying oy mum so how big CAN a boys penis get? never mind the 5 or 6 year olds that might want to watch an inoffensive cooking programme at half six and not expect that advert afterwards.....aibu? (no im not!)

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TransatlanticCityGirl · 17/04/2011 00:15

I thought the question asked on the advert was "how big can a boy's penis get" and not about "hard cocks"??? They are completely different questions to a child. Maybe not to you and I...

When my sister was 8 she was drawing pictures of naked bodies in her diary (as she was curious, and no one was talking about it until mother read her diary without her permission and realised that yes, even 8 year olds wonder about these things). She is 32 now. That wasn't that long ago either.

LDNmummy · 17/04/2011 00:16

But isnt there loads of sexual inuendo (in ur endo - tee hee ) in Come Dine With Me? And the occasional spontaneous snog session?

Bit0fFunnyBunny · 17/04/2011 00:18

The cock terminology is an exaggeration for effect, clearly, but I think the point still stands. Cinemas can't show 15-rated trailers during U-rated films. Why is that not the same for television trailers?

tethersegg · 17/04/2011 00:18

Innuendo- that famous italian suppository.

worraliberty · 17/04/2011 00:19

I think you're being a little bit childish now OP.

If your daughter is 8 then she'll be in junior school year 3 or 4? If so, she'll hear lots of confusing things from the older kids.

It has nothing to do with condoms, alcohol or parks.

If you apply that attitude towards teaching her about sex and periods, I doubt you'll be the first person she asks for advice.

Not being in any way funny...but really I think you need to look at the whole thing from a different perspective.

I still make you right about the 6.30 being too early though.

howdoyoueatyours · 17/04/2011 00:19

Nice strawman Exeter because hearing anatomically correct words for body parts and body functions is exactly the same as getting your child pissed and buying them contraceptives

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ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:19

come dine with me starts at five thirty. i have yet to spot a reference to spotted dick or a fragrant prawn ring.

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ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:21

this is so ridiculously pointless. fruit shoots are evil, a sausage roll once every now and then is evil, a cheeky happy meal as a treat will result in a fat little butterball but a nice big cock and having a shag whilst on your period is a good convo for an 8 year old. clearly i've made some mistakes along the lines.

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TransatlanticCityGirl · 17/04/2011 00:22

Right. Off to bed in a moment but some final food for thought, for all the parents who think they know exactly where the 14 year olds who get pregnant hang out, and what is "age appropriate" for their child.

When I was in secondary school my friends' father, who was very active in church, was infuriated when the school decided to teach certain topics in sex ed which he did not feel were appropriate for his daughter. At a Parent-Teacher meeting he basically said that the parents who were FOR this education were raising whores (e.g. my mother), and HIS daughter would never get herself knocked up at such a young age.

His daughter had her first pregancy scare at the age of 15.

I was a full consenting adult by the time I even had sex.

I no longer believe that a parent ever really truly knows what their child is thinking/doing.

nite nite!

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ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:22

scuse me while i get back down t'mine will ya

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howdoyoueatyours · 17/04/2011 00:24

Again you are trying to say that people who disagree with you are saying things that they're not. I don't think fruitshoots/sausage rolls/happy meals are evil. I aslo don't think that hearing the words penis, period and sex will steal a chils innocence. Cock and shag I would take exception to at 6:30 but not the correct terms. What words do you think the teachers at school use?

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ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:28

if at 8 years old they are talking about how having sex whilst you are on your period i would be extremely suprised. at 8 years old they are talking about relationships, respecting other people, marriage, not being married, mixed families, step families, hetro relationships, homo relationships, love, caring, respect. not having sex whilst on a period. not about how big a boys penis can get. not about wearing padded bras or knickers with HOT on the butt.

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howdoyoueatyours · 17/04/2011 00:34

They learn about the reproductive process from age 7 and that includes erect (big) penises. I assume they also discuss periods. Whether you can have sex on a period is quite a reasonable question for a child to ask as they both involve the same orafice. I remember someone asking how men don't do a wee during sex when I was at school.
Not sure where padded bras and knickers come into it though.

worraliberty · 17/04/2011 00:39

I think you're just adding bits for effect now.

How big a penis grows is a perfectly valid biological question.

Periods raise all sorts of questions for all ages considering more and more 9yr olds are starting to have them.

Like I say, I do get your point OP but you are coming across as a bit like my Mum was lol....she always thought she knew what 'children should be thinking' at certain ages and boy was she wrong.

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ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:39

the advert links to the subject of the next programme "stop pimping our kids". padded bra's, knickers with hot, sexy, fit on the bum.

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duckypoo · 17/04/2011 00:52

YANBU I had the same issue about the NSPCC ad that mentioned child rape before the watershed. My child doesn't even know what sex is, hasn't asked. I do not want her first introduction to the whole concept of sex to be via child rape .

I haven't seen the ad but it seems inappropriate, why exactly would an 8 yo girl ask how big a penis could get? why?

My dd is 7 and still in the fart/poo/bum stage, she doesn't seem to discuss anything regarding sex in the playground, she would have said, she is very forthcoming. I honestly doubt she would even know that penises do get bigger when erect, I am presuming she will ask me about stuff when she is curious, knowledge doesn't need to be forced upon her.

We had the period talk ect in about year 5 or 6 I think, which I think is about right. It was informative, but we were all very silly about it still, being children and all.

ll31 · 17/04/2011 01:46

I think theres huge difference today than previously in terms of sexualised content on tv etc..... I think you have to expect that your very young children will see/hear stuff you wouldn't want them too... I dont' think its possible to change this - maybe thats for another thread - I think theres big marketing / consumer industry in place thats sexualising children very young for reasons relating to profits etc.....

Overall I suppose you just want to try and ensure you have good relationship with your child and can talk to them...

HeidiKat · 17/04/2011 11:47

YANBU, I was watching Comedy Central a couple of hours ago with DD in the room and there was a trailer for Sex and the City in which Samantha says "Well, there goes my hard on." I was , luckily DD is only 4 months old and doesn't understand it but it is completely inappropriate to be shown at 10am when other kids could be watching, or do programme makers think that those of us with young children should only watch Cbeebies and nothing else?

NinkyNonker · 17/04/2011 13:56

Yanbu.

ZillionChocolate · 17/04/2011 14:21

I think 6.30 is too early for that trailer - YANBU.

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