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By leaving my kids on their own before and after school

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kazza113 · 16/04/2011 23:07

AIBU or selfish? I currently work 3 days a week and have a nice interesting stimulating job. Ive done the job for the past 12 years which has fitted in perfectly with bringing up my two children. DD 1 is now 13 and DD2 is now 12. However, I've always looked at job websites and have had slight feelings that i've stayed in this job too long and i'd like to stretch myself, learn new skills blah blah blah but until fairly recently have never seen anything that has caught my eye to want to apply for. Until recently that is.

Ive applied for and been offered a job which is in a different field with training. Two hundred and fifty people applied and five people got offered jobs. The job will have higher pay than i'm on now once trained. The downside is i've never done this job before so won't know if I really like it until I do it. I'm also very comfortable in my present job and am worried that if I leave and do the new job i'll regret it. The other big downside is that its an hours drive away and extra hours meaning i'll have to leave my kids an hour before and two hours after school (for three days a week). I feel like this is a big opportunity but i feel scared to leave my little comfort zone that both myself and my family are in. But my kids are getting older and are happy with the thought of me doing it. I may never get this opportunity again, but, I may not like the new job. Nothing ventured nothing gained, or better the devil you know. I'd really like to know what other people think. I'm really struggling to make a decision.

OP posts:
humanoctopus · 17/04/2011 00:48

kazza I am sure it will be ok. '

You really just need to sit down and discuss with them how you need to be wherever, and how their responsiblility has increased for their lives, but that you trust them, etc.

I forgot to mention that we set a review date. Two weeks, a month, and two months. The two week review was a disaster, filled with 'but I shouldn't have
have to get my gym gear ready myself' followed by two months later ' have you seen the M&S dine in for 2, it would feed 4 if I put on some rice before you get home'.

I think it has challenged them in a positive way. But the devil is in the detail. I.e., keep an open channel of convo open so that you can get where they are coming from from and head off at the pass when trouble's brewing.

Good luck with the changes.

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