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To want to batter my alkie neighbours new boyfreind to a pulp

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bittersweetvictory · 16/04/2011 19:01

I am raging as i type this, in fact raging is an understatement,
my son is autistic and was out jumping on his trampolene in the back garden, he is 18 but is very immature due to his condition.
My next door alkie neighbour is having a barbecue with her latest internet boyfreind and a couple of others, they are all steaming drunk and smoking spliffs openly, the fence between us is 6 feet but as son was jumping on trampoline he could see over the fence, i was in the kitchen when i over heard the new boyfreind say loudly " what is that fuking retard looking at, fuking spastic cunt "
I was out the back like a flash and went ape shit, i dont usually swear in everyday conversation but i just went mental and called them all every name under the sun, they stood there and never said a word looking shocked, i took my son in and he is now sitting watching the simpsons quite happily but i am so angry, do i phone the police, do i forget about it and just put it down to a bunch of drunken idiots, or do i phone DWP and report the alkie bitch for fraud ( i wouldnt normally dream of doing this but im so fuking mad ) as she is claiming benefits while working a casher and has moved her boyfreind in.

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Icelollycraving · 16/04/2011 21:21

Although I don't see the relevance of him being an Internet bf? Does that make him worse??

reelingintheyears · 16/04/2011 21:29

I'd be wary of reporting especially after an 'incident'.

They don't sound very reasonable.

As Cymar said...keep a log of dates/times and what was said etc.

LushMun · 16/04/2011 21:36

Ha ha Bittersweet! "i'm here for my battering"!!!!!!!!!! Love it!You're a woman after my own heart

FlamingJamie · 16/04/2011 21:36

I'd calm down a bit . You quite understandably said your piece. Just bide your time.

LushMun · 16/04/2011 21:38

Personally i'd now reinforce the fear by going outside in your garden tonight and howling at the moon

MmeSurvivedLent · 16/04/2011 21:41

Good for you.

I would wait a while then report them, so that it is not obvious that it is you.

SoupDragon · 16/04/2011 21:57

Why would you report the neighbour because her boyfriend is a wanker? Given that you claim you would not normally consider it, it seems rather unfair to do it because the boyfriend is an obnoxious twat.

Onetoomanycornettos · 16/04/2011 22:10

I actually agree that you have to stand up for yourself, you did, I would now leave it. I'm sure the point has got across.

Thing is, if you don't stand up for youself, as you say, as a single mum with an autistic child, you can easily get bullied by ignorant stupid (but often quite aggressive) people, as some of the terrible stories in the news have shown lately, people may perceive you as an easy target otherwise.

I am not an aggressive person and always get on very well with my very nice neighbours, but I understand how you feel where the children are concerned.

huddspur · 17/04/2011 00:05

I wouldn't report them to the police because I doubt they'd do anything.

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/04/2011 00:07

YANBU. My ds has autism, and I would be livid.

As for "I'm here for my battering"- I fucking love you

ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:10

I hope your son is OK. I would report them instantly, its disgusting behaviour. Even if nothing is done this time perhaps it would be wise to have the comments and behaviour on report incase (god forbid) there is another incident. If it was me (and i have personal experience) I would have struggled not to smack their faces in with a piece of fencing - ooh how rough i am. Disgusting people. I hope you and your son are OK. Please report it. Even if they don't bother you and your family again perhaps if they do the same to others then they will have a "mark" on the record.

byrel · 17/04/2011 00:13

You two sound made for each other. What he said was vile and if they're committing fraud then you should report them. Although "I'm here for my battering" is also pretty twattish

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/04/2011 00:16

Twattish, really? IMO it sounds the perfect way to deal with all mouth and no trouser Jeremy Kylians like this.....

ThatVikRinA22 · 17/04/2011 00:18

sod it - if they are committing fraud report them and let the benefits agency sort it.

my eldest is 19 with aspergers. i understand why you went ape.

FabbyChic · 17/04/2011 00:19

If someone insulted my child, I'd give as good as they did, the only way to retaliate to these people is in the same vain.

Abuse with abuse.

I can't see anyone standing idly by and allowing a child to be called a cunt without some swearing being given back in retaliation.

byrel · 17/04/2011 00:20

I don't have a high opinion of going round to someone elses house and try to provoke a violent reaction from them.

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/04/2011 00:24

No me neither byrel, but the way I read it, it wasn't to provoke violence, rather to put an end to some nasty threats. People like that, as I said, are all mouth and whencalled upon what they say, run away fast.

ExeterisEasy · 17/04/2011 00:25

if i was you i would ignore the liberal everyone is lovely brigade (they dont really mean it they just think they have to say it to be "liberal!). I will bring my own piece of 4x4 (with a nail in) if those twats insult your son or your family again. God forbid they would have half a brain.

tallwivglasses · 17/04/2011 00:31

No Fabby, us wimps don't just stand stand idly by, but we're maybe too intimidated, too nervous/don't have back-up biker pals to give as good as we get. Bittersweet is my fantasy super-shero!

One of the reasons I don't move out of my too-big, falling-down wreck of a house is because the neighbours are fine with ds.

Down the road we might get shit put through the letterbox.

I'm no shrinking violet but there's no way I'm tough enough rant at nasty, bigoted neighbours. Can dream though...

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/04/2011 00:33

*run away fast? Too uch gin, i mean back down or backtrack fast :)

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/04/2011 00:35

*much!

Anyhow, sometimes you just have to stand up for youself, that doesn't mean provoking violence.

ll31 · 17/04/2011 01:40

I'd be disgusted and as I think you did stand up for my son - but getting police - I dont really see why.. stupidity and rudeness is not (maybe unfortunately) a crime...

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 17/04/2011 07:17

going round to say "I am here for my battering" is not going round to get into a fight. It is confronting a coward who has a big gob and letting them know that you will not be bullied, intimidated or threatened by them.

Someone who goes round other people saying "I'm gonna batter X" is a mouthy coward trying to act big. Going round there was absolutely the best way to handle it. Look what happened - person has shut up.

Doing nothing marks you as victim material. People who allow themselves to be victims will be shat upon.

purplerabbitofinle · 17/04/2011 07:29

OP, DP and I are on our way (bugger the fact I have to go to work today) just tip us the wink

Verbally abusing anyone is out of order, definitely keep a log - of the evidence of drugs, the aggression and attempt to intimidate you and your son etc.

Oh, and the way I read it the conversation was conducted through/over the garden fence so no knocking on doors required!

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