to be pissed off that DP came in at 3.45am on a Friday night / sat morning?

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He went out with his friends - fine...
But what do men in their forties do until 3.45 am in town?
He reckons just dancing?
He says I should 'trust him'.
I don't get these 'boys nights out' tbh.
Should I?
I'm three months pregnant.

You sound a wee bit posessive to me, try to work on it before the baby comes or it will only make you feel even more resentful.

When he says dancing he means lap dancing. They don't want you there as you'll spoil all the fun

Oh dont be so ridiculous Finger. So if women go out til that time are they at lap dancing clubs? Or just shagging other men?

Don't be so ridiculous gemsy why would women go to lap dancing clubs? Unless the work there of course...

So if women can be out until 3.45 am, why cant men? Why does it have to mean they are up to no good?

You do sound a bit possesive OP.

Ok I could understand if you were saying he cheated on you..but the whole 'I don't get these boys nights out' and 'surely it's pretty boring'..makes you come across as quite unreasonable and a bit of a fuddy duddy.

People don't suddenly change the way they think because they're 3 months pregnant. Did you not 'get' why people go on boys/girls nights out before you got pregnant?

hmm, not possessive as such - I came around the the 'boys night out thing' but going to a party down in cornwall will pretty much take up his whole easter weekend. It would be quite nice if he decided he wanted to take me out for a change or make me a priority - but perhaps I'll be waiting a while........

"It would be quite nice if he decided he wanted to take me out for a change or make me a priority - but perhaps I'll be waiting a while........ "

See now, that's a separate issue. If he's not wanting to go out as a couple, that's a problem.

And re the weekend away. I assume you will be doing similar? I realise you can't go on a drinking bender, being pregnant, but you could (and should!) book yourself a spa weekend.

ooh Spa weekend - now youre talking Hecate. I'm going to look into that. I have suggested that old cliche of 'date night' one week he chooses and the next i choose - so now we just need to put it into action I guess. And get ready for doing adrenaline junkie things when it's his turn (within reason!)

LeQueen - that's funny! My man is still quite hot (IM Biased O) even though he's in his mid 40s - no receding hairline and young girls still chat and smile at hime with big eyes. He seems quite oblivious though... As for his dancing..... hmmm another matter