Too tired, or just plain lazy?

[Zahora]

I never seem to have any energy for anything. I don't have any medical conditions (had a check-up). Since I've had ds and left work to stay at home, I've become very lazy. I put everything off for another day. I've become a chronic procrastinator. I just give up on the housework before I start. Ironing isn't done in weeks, and clothes only ironed when I need to wear something.

I've gained weight, stopped going to the gym even though I have a gym membership and have the time. Looks have gone a long time ago. My favourite hairstyle is the ponytail and stopped wearing makeup. I now like 'clean skin'...but dodge mirrors.

I would feel so much better if the house was clean and tidy and my clothes all ironed and hanging up nicely. I really never used to be like this while I was at work, and I know I was far busier and had later nights and earlier mornings. How does this happen. Is it really that I'm exhausted or am I just a lazy person?

Am I using motherhood as an excuse to get lazy?

BluddyMo - I know what you mean. I like to do that sometimes, especially when I'm feeling energetic in the morning. Make a plan for friend to come round, and then run around cleaning up and starightening my hair and getting that new ysl lippgloss out. I love the look of my home just before someone comes round. (Wish it would stay like that). It takes someone serious like my mum coming round or some in-laws, before I will iron and put away the clothes. Then I find it so exhausting I don't invite them round again for a while.

Thank you ladies, for not calling me a lazybum yet. I do feel like I waste my days and just sit around for no good reason but watching ds playing. Good Housekeeping thread? Oooh never noticed, I'll have to check it out xx

I don't know - I feel the same. My kids are older and I do work but I just look at the housework most of the time rather than doing it. That said I do find the energy to gossip on the phone to my mates, read books and watch telly.

For myself I think procrastination is a form of passive aggression. I won't do anything, car tax, reports, ironing until the situation is serious.

You have had a lot of sympathy on here and if you really might be depressed I'm very pleased for you. However, if you can pull out the stops when people come round, I don't think you are depressed. I think you need to pull yourself together, stop procrastinating and get on with it. Make a list - four things to be achieved every day and start them before 9am. And if you aren't going to iron the clothes, for goodness sake fold them, hang them and put them away.

"if you really might be depressed I'm very pleased for you"

onceamai, depression is an illness, so I don't think being "very pleased" is really appropriate.

"if you can pull out the stops when people come round, I don't think you are depressed"

This is not true and shows a misunderstanding of depression.

Not read the whole thread as I have to stop reading as soon as the first 'you have 'PND/ depression' pops up!
Totally agree with bluddy, people are to quick to diagnose PND on here.
I was exactly like op, back to work now and get loads more done.
Being at home is exhausting and monotonous and bloody tiring work.
Op have you thought about going back to work?

You seem a bit fixated on the ironing. Forget the ironing! Just put the clothes away, then at least you can feel you accomplished something and you don't have a constant to-do task sitting around.

Are you going back to work soon? I only ask because that would solve this whole problem really, and if so you might as well enjoy being lazy while you still can