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AIBU?

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Should I have not given up my seat on the bus for a pg woman?

15 replies

ivykaty44 · 15/04/2011 10:31

was I being silly to offer my seat to a pg woman - should I really have ignored her large bump and sat grinning at her instead?

AIBU to give up my seat and make her very happy?

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K999 · 15/04/2011 10:33

YANBU....I always give up my seat for pregnant ladies,although not many did when I was pregnant!

nethunsreject · 15/04/2011 10:33

It was the right thing to do, yup.

Flower1000 · 15/04/2011 10:34

No you are NBU, I used to travel to London on a regular basis whilst I was pregnant and I have to say, I was always extrememly humbled by anyone who gave up a seat for me on the tube. Actually it restored my faith in human nature somewhat as the tube, at rush hour isn't a nice place. But I found that from being about 7 months pregnant onwards people would always offer me a seat - mainly women actually, and I think it just shows that we, as humans, still have a little bit of humanity left (those of you who use the tube at rush hour will know what I mean).

bubblecoral · 15/04/2011 10:34

Why would you ask, did something happen?

Whether you give up the seat or not, I wouldn't sit grinning at anyone. The might think you are slightly insane.

EricNorthmansMistress · 15/04/2011 10:35

Why would you have been U to do that?

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ivykaty44 · 15/04/2011 10:35

see I just wasn't sure - I did worry incase she thought I thought her bum looked big in this pg and may be offended - do you think her bum was in effect the problem looking so big I had to let her sit down otherwise I was afraid she would squash me if we cornered to fast?

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Melly19MummyToBe · 15/04/2011 10:37

I was thinking that Bubble :o I wouldn't sit grinning at someone either. I'm 7 months pg and would find being grinned at very disturbing.

olderyetwider · 15/04/2011 10:39

I got offered a seat by a young woman yesterday. I'm not pg. She must have thought I was old

Melly19MummyToBe · 15/04/2011 10:40

OP have you ever been pregnant before? The last thing I worry about when standing up is whether my bums big or not! I worry about my back mainly and think "oh god I need to sit down right now"

jellykit · 15/04/2011 10:41

I personally wouldn't. I like to stand next to them and lean to one side slightly. The visual disortion combined with their skewed center of gravity makes them fall over

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ivykaty44 · 15/04/2011 10:41

I have been pg before and afters - I can't remember whether I went on a bus though?

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Melly19MummyToBe · 15/04/2011 10:55

Did you worry about your bum being big then? Can't say it's even occured to me to think about that :o to be honest as far as I can tell, it's just my belly what has got bigger. My boobs haven't really grown either. They're just firmer and heavier.

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ivykaty44 · 15/04/2011 11:38

oh just wait till afters - your boobs will suddenly appear and its ohohoho shit they are not comfy stuff on my chest.

I worried about my bum to offset the pain of my boobs I think.

Poor woman though If I had been on said bus

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Melly19MummyToBe · 15/04/2011 12:06

I'm not convinced that they will get much bigger to be honest, I'm an F cup already, I was before I got PG, so surely they wont grow much more will they? [hopeful]

dearyme · 15/04/2011 12:16

maybe she werent preggers but just fat :)

she may have been a militant feminist yoghurt knitter who would be offended

you really did take your life in your hands there OP :)

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