About spare room. Know I am

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Our spare room is full of stuff. Much of it is baby and toddler stuff which dp has taken down from loft and play room with a view to taking it to charity shop etc. I am having problems letting go of this stuff. Would like to do it in stages. maybe selling some bits etc. Today after a row dp coldly said he was going to take contents of spare room to tip. AIBU to include his James Bond Var collection in that?

Ah....... one man's treasure is another man's heap of merde.

Don't throw things out in the heat of the moment.

Are you/could you have more kids for this stuff?
If not keep a symbolic few favourites, first shoes, favourite baby gro etc, put them in a lovely keepsake style box, clean and nicely wrapped in paper etc, get rid of the rest imho!
Good for your relationship to let go of the past! (Easier said then done)
Only really organised people sell things ime...

I agree that planning to sell things is likely to end up in them hanging around forever unless you are super organised. Can you agree to give stuff to a charity you like ? That way you get a good feeling about parting with it.

I have 'released' stuff bit by bit. Thankfully a dear friend has had a baby recently and I gave her stuff that I was oddly attached to. But hidden at the back of my wardrobe are some baby gros, knitted hats from the SCBU (I naughtily kept the ones they gave us and knitted them others) and a toy both my little ones loved as babies.

I went to give some of DD2s (15 months) old clothes away, and I found I just couldn't do it.

The reason I couldn't is because I didn't want to let go something that intimately connected me to her being a little baby (we're not planning on having any more) and I'm clinging to that raw maternal newborn love I felt for her.

If anybody tried to take them away from me before I'm ready I'd rip their head off.

He was just trying to hurt you by pressing buttons.

If you're going to get rid of his james bond toys, at least check out how much they are on fleabay