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Really. Would you like to eat a sandwhich in the toliet?

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bananasinpjamas · 14/04/2011 23:18

Really. Would you like to eat a sandwhich in the toliet?

Nah, don't fancy it either. Why should a baby or their mum be ashamed of a baby eating their lunch in public?

Really. Boobs may be sexualised objects, but first and foremost they are there and have been specially created to feed your baby the perfect combination of nutrients.

Why should someone be ashamed at making the best choice for their baby. This is after a funny debate me and boyfriend had when discussing the bbc3 program, he said he felt uncomfortable when someone whips them out next to him as he is programmed to be attracted to boobs. Not denying this, but I told him first and foremost he better get over this quick as if I have kids and am healthy, I will most likely not want to go into hiding over such a natural process.

Before anyone flames me:

I am not attacking people who bottle feed. If this is what works for you and your baby and you are happy and healthy, fair enough.

OP posts:
RedbinD · 14/04/2011 23:54

If the seat was nice and comfortable and nobody banging on the door I'd eat my dinner in the loo. Bit of a weird post.

foreverondiet · 14/04/2011 23:54

I have EBF my three DC all until 6 months old. I have never ever fed them in a toilet, nor have I ever "whipped them out" - if your narrow minded pervy boyfriend was sitting next to me he in a cafe wouldn't have seen any flesh or probably even noticed. I wore a vest that I pulled down, a top I pulled up and a cardi as well. I fed in parks, airports, shops, coffee shops, restuarants, playgrounds etc etc.

Sorry OP you get a Biscuit - what a stupid post - as only your stupid boyfriends thinks anyone feed in a toilet. That bodes well for you then I guess.

MangoTango · 14/04/2011 23:55

When my dd was one month old I tried to feed her during a family meal and my sister said "Can't you go to the toilet to do that??" Now that she has her own baby I must remember to suggest she does the same next time she tried to give her baby his bottle during a family meal! Hmm

BertieBotts · 14/04/2011 23:55

Previous contributions? I dread to think. Grin Oh well. I'm going to bed so dredge up what you like.

einstein1 · 14/04/2011 23:56

foreverondiet

PMSL. Thanks alot. That really was worth waiting up all night for.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 14/04/2011 23:58

FFS what is the matter with everyone? If you must bang on about this incessantly then put it in the feeding topic, its there for a reason. I can link to it if it's too complicated for you to find.

foreverondiet · 15/04/2011 00:06

Ah! Now realise its a troll post and I should have replied in witty way!

No haven't ever eaten in toilet, but my SIL told me that when she was pregnant she was so tired she slept in the toilet cubicle at work for an hour every lunchtime!

Also on subject of toilet had to go in airport with DS2 aged 1 attached me in babybjorn facing outwards, rather funny.

Diggs · 15/04/2011 00:30

he said he felt uncomfortable when someone whips them out next to him as he is programmed to be attracted to boobs.

Has anyone ever actually done the above to him ?

Original poster
bananasinpjamas · 15/04/2011 01:03

Supposed to be a lighthearted thread...

Here goes.

OP posts:
SpeedyGonzalez · 15/04/2011 01:12

Bananas, your boyf is not genetically or evolutionarily programmed to gawp at breasts. He's been socialised into it, and were he from some very different cultures he wouldn't give two hoots about hooters.

Grin
doley · 15/04/2011 01:28

Mothers are sometimes asked to go in to the bathroom because those requesting it ,associate/link B/feeding with other bodily functions Angry

It crops up all the time "I don't poo on the bus ,it is natural too ,why should you feed your baby there ?"

Blah ,blah bloody~ blah Grin

southofthethames · 15/04/2011 01:51

I never came across this scenario personally, but I would object to anyone asking a mother to BF her baby in the cloakroom/loo, no matter how pretty the restrooms looked. It's against the law anyway. You'd never find a man agreeing to eat his Sunday roast in the loo! I think the reason why food items are found in loo bins is that the people who discarded them couldn't find bins elsewhere.

southofthethames · 15/04/2011 01:57

@doley - those people are not stating their case logically. Lots of people eat or drink on the bus - well, they aren't supposed to eat pungent food, but chocolate, mints, fruit, etc are ok, and of course non alcoholic drinks - from water to milk to coffee - are more than ok. So babies can have their milk on buses (if they don't find the ride too bumpy). I think most people agree that eating and drinking are vastly different from doing a poo...........

southofthethames · 15/04/2011 02:13

P.S. Some of us would be shocked that anyone would even dare to suggest that to a mum (I was when I first heard about it) but quite a few, like MangoTango, have - a relative of mine was told this by a hotel she booked for a - get this - christening reception. I don't think they actually banished her there, I think when she asked for somewhere private, that was all they could suggest. I was just astounded because I would have imagined that being a hotel, that was a rather pathetic response! In contrast, a hotel we booked when it was our turn was more than accomodating in providing a large, private, clean and well ventilated room nearby (with tea and coffee -and herbal tea! - making facilities, no less) for mums to feed in. (There were 4 families there with young babies)

MadamDeathstare · 15/04/2011 02:28

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MrsFlittersnoop · 15/04/2011 02:57

Not specious at all, Madame DS. BF on a bus doesn't stink or create a health hazard.

Oh dear lord, I've breastfeed in a pub loo about 13 years ago. Not nice.

Same old bloody argument going on. It wasn't nice or necessary then, and shouldn't be necessary now,

But it was a seriously skanky old hole in Muswell Hill that areshole ex-DP wanted to hook up with his vile mates in.

Lets face it, mums have more choices now. There are far more family- friendly places around to take your DC too.

sausagesandmarmelade · 15/04/2011 06:38

Most people I've seen BF have done so discreetly, what's wrong with that?...so that you hardly knew they were feeding. They'd put a nice shawl across their shoulders to cover their boob and let the baby get on with it....lovely.

In fact it's a beautiful sight seeing a mother (or anyone else) feed and nurture their baby...WHETHER OR NOT THE BABY IS BF'd OR BOTTLE FED in my opinion.

sausagesandmarmelade · 15/04/2011 06:40

ooh...wonders which skanky place that was....and whether it's a swanky (as opposed to skanky) gastro pub now! Smile

BertieBotts · 15/04/2011 09:22

Foreveronadiet, aged one in as baby bjorn? Respect! Grin

If someone said to me "You wouldn't poo on a bus, so why would you breastfeed there?" I'd be so tempted to point at the baby and say "Well he does, so by your logic it's perfectly fine for him to breastfeed wherever."

I don't know if I would though.

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