to consider DC no 3 at age 36/7?

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Thinking aloud I guess. Financial situation is no longer particularly secure since recession though fine day to day. 2 previous sections. Pregnancies fine though pretty sick/tired. Think I am feeling under pressure to make a decision soon (tick tock etc). DS2 just passing toddler phase so is it just a reaction to this and will it pass? While I am unlikely to rush into anything I really don't feel I can give it a year or two to see how I feel. Starting to notice too many wrinkles! DH probably happy either way. Sorry, rambling.

OP I am in exactly the same position as you although fingers crossed ok financially. I am dithering. And you know what? I think thats my answer. DDs 1 and 2 were so wanted and craved I was DESPERATE to be pregnant each time it consumed me. But now I am carefully weighing up the negatives (grimness of first 4 months pregnancy, giving birth, first 6 months of no sleep, family dynamic now is great, I was one of 3 and my youngest sister still hung up about being left out, threw the dice and won the last two times a third is pushing my luck, soft play centres etc etc). I think the fact I am not ttc immediately means I dont actually want to do it. Also we are inexorably moving out of the baby stage which although sad is exciting we can do so much more as a family. Sorry to meander on!

Ooh, I feel for you! I am in kind if the same position; I have two delightful dc, am 33 and considering another. We live in a 2 bed house so currently trying to move, don't know how I'll cope with the tiredness or sleepless nights (ds a terrible sleeper) but I'm sooooo jealous of people who are pregnant! I've given myself a year to make up my mind, hope things work out for you op!

My advice from observing others is to wait until your second one is at full-time nursery/school (so 4 ish) before having a third. Much easier.

Had DS at 37.
DC2 due 2 weeks before 41st birthday.
Took about 2 weeks to conceive both.

THEN THAT'S IT. Not just age, but I have had hyperemisis both times too.

YANBU - i had dc3 at 38. Lots of people pnly have their first at your age!

But there are downsides to older 2 being over 4 (mine were 4 & 6): most of your friends seem to be getting well away from baby phase as you are just diving back in. I also found no 3 tougher, even though dcs1&2 are very self sufficient, as he was rubbish sleeper. Don't think that was necessarily due to age but being out of practice! ( and he was much worse than previous 2).

i am 37 and 30 weeks with number 3. My other DC are 6 and 4. I am definately more tired this time and not quite sure how I am going to cope with a screaming baby while getting their reading and homework done. I am sure we will all manage. I still wouldn't rule out number 4 but think DH has other ideas. We'll see how we get on.

When I was thinking about having number 3 someone said to me that you don't regret having another child but you might regret not having one.

Had DC3 when i was 38 - it was very unplanned and there is a 9 year gap between DC2 and DC3. Still not over the shock.Maybe more to do with the gap than my age, but feel "been there and done that" with the first two and definitely less enthusiastic with DC3 - he was late to learn to swim and can't ride a bike yet
Also i have had to work fulltime this time due to enormous financial pressure. it's hard to come home from work to deal with teenagers, exams, boyfriends, job interviews,sex,and other weighty issues, and then have DS asking me to play with him. Its entirely up to you OP and your individual circumstances, but I would think twice.....

I had my twins (DD1 and DS1) at 37 and DD2 when I was 40 and 7 months so you have lots of time!

We had always talked about "the next one" after I had the twins, so it was more a matter of timing - rather that "do we don't we?" . I was also lucky that I conceived immediately- which was a bit of a surprise !

It was hard work with 3 under 3 1/2 but it would have been hard work whatever my age was !

Good luck with your decision !