To think that if your DH/DP does NOTHING for your fortieth birthday

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not a card, not a present, gets you nothing from your dc who are too small to do it themselves and then claims he was skint but did manage to pay for and go away abroad for a stag do a month or two before then he probably doesn't actually give a f*ck about you and you should accept you are in no way important or special to him?

YANBU. What are you going to do?

i always think actions speak the loudest

if a person,, male or female, cant make the effort to spend 5 minutes buying a card and a box of chocs, then they really dont think much of you

imo

Weeeelll, it depends.. My DH and I pretty much ignore each other's birthdays. We just do. It's not our thing at all. I might get him a card from the kids and a supermarket cake that the kids can blow candles out but that's all. It really is not our thing, just another day and I really wouldn't want a fuss at all.

I know that makes me weird.

But if you normally celebrate birthdays in your household and make a deal of them, then YANBU!

If my DH went off for a night out and I got nothing for my birthday, I wouldn't be bothered at all. In fact, I'd be glad he enjoyed himself.

My perogative is not to 'expect' anything because then I won't be disappointed. I'm just glad to be alive and that's more than I could ask for.

Meant to say that I don't care about cards/presents because I know that my DH and kids love me regardless and they show their love in many other ways.

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That is very very selfish. YA definitley NBU

I will be devastated.

my DH makes a big fuss and usually has a few days dedicated to treating me. we make a fuss for the kids and for his bday I always do something special.

if I was doing for him and he was not doing for me ....then I would have left him ages ago