to be fed up of the double standard

[chocolatecoveredlissielou]

we have been offered a new house, a 3 bed in a really nice village. it would mean changing ds's school and dh would have to change stores but on the up side, no more drug dealers on our front garden, ds would be going to a better school and a better overall standard of living. dh and i agreed not to tell anyone til we made up our mind, but today he spoke to his parents about it, i had told my parents we were shortlisted and when they asked if we heard i said we were viewing. dh and i had a row about it aibu

So you both agreed not to tell anybody until you had viewed the house and made your minds up but you both then told your own sets of parents anyway.

And now he's angry with you for telling yours after you agreed not to say anything even though he told his parents the same thing after agreeing not to tell them.

Yes, that's a double standard. YANBU.

takethis, exactly. although if he'd not told his i would have been evasive with mine. but figured the agreement didnt apply to parents since he told his.

am confusing myself now

I think it's one rule for him and another for you by the sounds of it.

Very petty on his side. Regardless of the fact that you also spoke to you parents about it, he seems to have gone off the deep end about you breathing a word to them!

I don't think you are BU, I think he is.

I don't understand

LDNmummy

They both agreed not tell anybody they might be moving house until they had made a decision and then they both told someone anyway.

Her DH is mad at her for telling, even though he did the same.