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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 13/04/2011 23:27

I am a reg who has namechanged for this as it is embarrassing for me.

Every month for a couple of days prior to my period I am a total nightmare.

I am tetchy and argumentative, tbh I would not want to be near me.

Today DP and I had a row over nothing tbh but i kept on until it turned into a full scale war ending in me slapping him round the face. I am not proud of this and DP was deeply hurt because neither of us are like this. He walked away to our room but I wouldn't leave it, I kept going back at him shouting and being abusive - verbally. He walked out the bedroom and went in the living room.

I then broke down in tears and went to bed where I spent an hour crying before I fell asleep.

DP and I are ok now

How or what can I do to stop my mood swings at this time of the month?

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:07

Skin, I went back on the pill after having DS2, but found it made me very cranky, bloated and just didn't agree with me so came back off it. I have been off it for over 3yrs now and will not go on it again. Hence why I haven't been to the dr.

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EggyFucker · 14/04/2011 00:08

stop belittling violence, iget

if a man hits a woman just once is it ok ?

scottishmummy · 14/04/2011 00:09

gp will take history, perhaps look for pattern, ask her to discuss her symptoms

based on this may suggest a range of options inc SSRI (Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitors), combined contraceptive pill, increased calcium in diet

NAPS - National Association for Premenstrual Syndrome
41 Old Road, East Peckham, Kent, TN12 5AP
Tel (Helpline): 0870 777 2177 Web: www.pms.org.uk

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:09

my children were not here, when they are here I have never acted this way.

My period i early this month and I have had no warning of this, I started today and the pmt accompanied it if that makes sense.

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:10

Scottish - Thankyou, I appreciate that info. Will look on the site.

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spiderlight · 14/04/2011 00:10

I agree about a chat with your GP, but just to offer one other suggestion, my herbalist prescribed me Wild Yam tincture for severe PMT and it worked utter miracles. I'm going to try homoeopathic sepia though - herbalist has now retired and the Wild Yam I've bought at health-food shops hasn't been anywhere near as effective as hers. I have one day a month, exactly 7 days before my period starts, when I am absolutely seething with horribleness - it's literally as if my blood is itching. Hate it hate it hate it, and it's been far far worse since DS was born.

Have you heard of PMDD?

EggyFucker · 14/04/2011 00:11

am not jumping on the OP, she asked for advice from mumsnetters

I am a mumsnetter, and I am advising her to see her GP and get proper treatment

there is help out there

others seem to want to belittle violence, but today's episode should galvanise OP into action, not apathy nor thinking that it's ok 'cos it was "just once"

scottishmummy · 14/04/2011 00:11

take look at link www.pms.org.uk and make the gp appt

igetmorelovefromthecat · 14/04/2011 00:12

Eggy- 'proper' medication being the types with really bad side effects I presume? Because all hormonal meds do have side effects (whether they are visible or not).

All I am saying is this is well worth trying, as 100% of people I know who have taken it for PMT symptoms have found it helpful to some degree, from a bit better to totally gone.

scottishmummy · 14/04/2011 00:12

no dont go to any quack or herbalist.they will sell you placebo.given impact this has on you and do make gp appt

SkinittingFluffyBunnyBonnets · 14/04/2011 00:14

Well you are coming over as strident eggy...you assumed right off that the OP had done it more than once and then you assumed she had done it front of her DC.

That's strident and you are assuming a lot plusl jumping to conclusions.

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:14

Eggy, I don't think it is ok. If I did, I would not have posted on here asking for advice.

I am not happy with this, DP is understanding and doesn't hold it against me he knows it is not how i am.

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EggyFucker · 14/04/2011 00:15

how big was your sample, iget ?

100% success rate from a couple of your mates doesn't trump properly-controlled medical research

iget, your advice is terrible...are you seriously suggesing that OP should not seek any medical help ?

EggyFucker · 14/04/2011 00:16

HowTo, all the more reason to do everything you can to ensure it doesn't happen again

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:16

I will give it a go but will also see my gp.

Spider i have not heard of pmdd. will read up on it thankyou.

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:17

eggy, and I will be making sure trust me.

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:18

and I have just pinpointed exactly when things got worse through talking to DP, it was when I started dieting 3 months ago.

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EggyFucker · 14/04/2011 00:19

skin, the Op has said that she gets the mood swings every month for the last 6 months

today was an escalation of those same mood swings

I never assumed that she had actually hit him before, I am saying this is an escalating pattern

and yes, forgive me for being strident and having zero tolerance for violence both physical and verbal from either gender against either gender

would you ladies be ctiticising my stance if some bloke had twatted his girlfiend in a fit of temper for very little provocation ?

scottishmummy · 14/04/2011 00:19

op dont muck about with quacks and placebo.given the impact this has upon you, and dp dont faff about with expensive hermasetas

igetmorelovefromthecat · 14/04/2011 00:20

Well if you don't mind me saying Eggy, I don't think yours is exactly brill either.

Yes I am saying that at this point in time I don't think OP needs to see her GP. Just about every woman sufferers from some degree of PMT, and there's absolutely chuff all her GP can/will do about it.

And why you think that the GP holds a miracle answer I am not quite sure...I could bore you for hours with tales of how me and my DC have been misinformed/misprescribed and generally fucked over by GPs and the orthodox medical system. They really don't have all the answers.

EggyFucker · 14/04/2011 00:20

HowTo, PMDD is explained in that link I posted several messages ago

and also how SSRI's and hormonal treatments (not just The Pill) can help

good luck x

SkinittingFluffyBunnyBonnets · 14/04/2011 00:21

well you are assuming it is an escalating pattern...she could have had a bad day...a bad week..on top of the normal PMT.

You can't assume she will do it next time.

She slapped him...she never twatted him.

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HowToStopThisHappeningAgain · 14/04/2011 00:21

Eggy, I did say we were rowing. I didn't just walk up to him and slap him fgs.

We were mid row which started over nothing but we were BOTH rowing at the point I slapped him. It doesn't make it right and it has never happened before. Nor will it happen again.

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SkinittingFluffyBunnyBonnets · 14/04/2011 00:22

Many medications have their basis in herbs and other very natural things...what do you think Oil of Evening Prmrose is Eggy?

SkinittingFluffyBunnyBonnets · 14/04/2011 00:22

And you can get that off the GP!

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