to be upset by DP?

[tigerhead]

DP and I have been together for almost 2 yrs, no DCs, we aren't living together but we do live close by.

When we first started the relationship, everything was fab, he was attentive, caring, made lots of effort and it was an all round brilliant relationship.

Things have changed though. He's been busy with work, which is understandable, but how hard is a text/phone call? Sometimes we will go for a couple of days without talking if I don't contact him first.

It just feels like he really doesn't care. For our anniversary, I was keen to do something special, but I had to convince him to even spend the night together, nevermind go out. We ended up staying in and watching telly, no card, prezzie, nothing - which is fine, don't get me wrong, I'm not a materialistic woman at all, but I don't think it was unreasonable to expect SOMETHING.

In the entire time we have been together we have never been out for a nice meal. I suggested we go on holiday, he seemed keen but has mentioned nothing since, and when I asked he said he wasn't sure if he would be available. He always suggests we do things, but then never follows through with them and just says 'sorry' when I remind him. We don't argue, when I try and bring something up he acts hurt so I don't take it any further.

AIBU to be upset by his lack of caring, or are they all just trivial things?

Oh no :(

Have a cry and a bit of a mope, then get to bed, get a good night's rest, and get this sorted

aww, sweetie

I am sorry

Sorry OP, he's def on the verge of moving you out of his life and his new text buddy in. Sorry if that sounds harsh. You sound nice and deserve better than him. Don't be afraid of being single, give it a couple of weeks and i can guarantee that you'd wished you had done it sooner!
Take care :)

You will actually feel like a weight has lifted once you put this 'relationship' out of your misery and call it quits. This man doesn't dislike you or mean you any harm, he just can't be bothered with the relationship: in his mind it's quite nice to have a 'girlfriend', particularly one who is obviously keener on him than he is on her: he gets sex when he wants it and the ego boost of having someone scurrying after him trying to please him.
If a couple-relationship is important to you (and life is fine without one you know - being single is always better than being in an unsatisfactory couple-relationship) then you need to have one with a man to whom couplehood - and you - are a priority. And this bloke just isn't bothered.

tiger, there is nothing wrong with being single. And there is somebody much, much better out there for you. But you won't get to meet him if you continue to hang around with Mr Noncommittal.

I hope you managed to get some sleep last night.

It is horrible having to face up to what you already know isn't it :(

You will feel crap at first, 2 years is a long time, but very soon you will see that your life is so much better without him dragging you down and just doing what you want, when you want, without dealing with his 'can't be arsed' attitude.

Create a vacancy for MrLovely :)