to join the legions of parents who despair at the actions of their DC's absent parent?

[hardhatdonned]

By which i mean surely if you are going to buy a dog for a child for their birthday you let them choose what breed it is or at the very least let them name it? Right? Or if they MUST pick the puppy up without the child being there then they ring the child on their birthday and say that a puppy has been bought and let the child, not the new partner, name it?

AIBU on this one?

Please tell me of your tales of unreasonable ex behaviour to cheer me up as ^^ is a proper palm of the hand to the forehead moment in my eyes!

Yeah it kind of sounds like it isn't really the child's dog! Definitely don't let the new partner name it if it is the child's birthday present, if it is the new family pet (which it sounds like it is) then fine but not if it is a birthday present and the child isn't involved in any way....did he get dc any other presents or was that an excuse to get out of buying presents? (how nosy am I haha!)

My ex 'lost' our newborn the first time he took him out for a walk on his own! Hadn't strapped him in properly and went up a muddy hill, baby and cosy toes slipped out of the buggy and he walked right over it without noticing, got to the end of the path and looked in the buggy and panicked! Ran down the path frantically searching and then found the cosy toes hidden under the mud with screaming new born baby inside! He then took him home and was acting shifty to say the least then he eventually told me what had happened!

YABU, a child shouldn't choose which breed of dog to buy/adopt or there would be Great Danes living in high-rise one room flats and Newfies living in studio apartments! There's good reason for an adult being the one to choose which dog a family has.

This does not mean that your ex is not a twat though. I have such an ex myself and can supply lists of his twattishness, as I'm sure you can. :)

My son was 12 on Saturday, he's still waiting for his father to send him a birthday card or phone him up to wish him a happy birthday.

They are exes for a reason.

They're twats :)

Belle my DC is still waiting on a birthday card too (birthday was a month ago nearly)