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To feel weird that dp's best friend has just called their new dd the same name as our dd?

37 replies

gateacre1 · 13/04/2011 17:06

yes yes I know they have every right to call their baby whatever name they choose.
It just seems really strange to me
Also they always seem to buy whatever things we get eg, same car, same electrical goods ( this doesnt really bother me) His best friends wife always seems to buy the same clothes as me too, so many times I bump into her and she is wearing an outfit she has previously seen me in ( could be coincidence? )

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LoveLeonardCohen · 13/04/2011 19:31

YANBU.....I think I would be a bit put out in the same situation

reelingintheyears · 13/04/2011 20:09

I hate that 'be flattered' bollocks...

My Mum used to say it about HER friends daughter who copied me till i wanted to KILL her.

It would piss me right off.

FingandJeffing · 13/04/2011 20:20

It really depends on the name. Good friends of mine had a son 3 months after mine and used the same name. I didn't mind in the slightest. My sons name is a popular standard name like say David or James I can hardly lay claim to it. As it is we have always used a nickname and they don't so limited confusion.

If I had used Cassius or something rather unusual I might think it a little strange. So it depends on the name really.

giveitago · 13/04/2011 20:24

Depends on the name - at ds's school there are loads of duplicate names - fashionable names for the moment and everyone uses them.

There are loads of Josh/Molly/Finn/Rachel/Eden/Ben/Anna etc. lots of in names. People pick up on them and then they become 'fashionable'.

If I heard I nice name I'd probably want to use it too.

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 13/04/2011 20:30

It is weird - your DH's are good friends of over 20 years, so it's not a neighbours, workmates situation - it's like family. There are plenty of other names in the world. It would have been slightly less weird if when you had your dd they had said something like 'Oh, if we have a girl we will call her x as well as it's my Grandmothers name and I've always said I'd name my DD after her'... but just to do it without saying anything is plain weird.

fastedwina · 13/04/2011 20:34

But husband and I only had one name we agreed on and both loved for our Ds - why would we change then to one we didn't like as much just as someone else had chosen it before us . We didn't copy them but we both obviously loved THAT name.

Mummywalsh · 13/04/2011 21:24

My SIL is terrible for thinking people envy her, I told her the other day that a mutual friend had named her PFB Demi and she instantly replied, "Oh she copied me, that's what I was going to call DD" aargh, she drives me mad, sorry rant over

Mummywalsh · 13/04/2011 21:26

Sorry may I add DN is nearly three and doesn't even go by her given name x

pinkytheshrinky · 13/04/2011 21:29

My H's ex named her son the same as our son six months later - it is a really unusual name... I was as mad as hell I still am

freddy05 · 13/04/2011 21:30

I know someone who called his son with his first wife and his son with his second wife the same name!!

YANBU It would bug me if someone did it to me.

Bumblequeen · 13/04/2011 22:19

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missymarmite · 13/04/2011 22:36

A few of my friends and aquaintances have kids with lovely names, that I would have chosen had I had the chance to have more kids. I love the name Isabella and then someone called their DD Bella and I thought "damn! Now if I ever have a DD one day I can't call her that!"

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