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AIBU?

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to be annoyed with snotty granny?

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flipper99 · 13/04/2011 11:42

My mum just came to visit for a few days for my lo's christening. However she had a horrible cold which started the day before she arrived, and now both I and 3 month old lo also have it and are both feeling rotten. What's more we have had a week of him sleeping through the night but last night he was obviously unsettled and reverted to his previously usual 3.30 waking (when he was fed) and, being a bit ill and pessimistic, I am now assuming this will now become the norm again :(

I wouldn't have expected her to miss the christening but I wish she had phoned to let me know before she arrived. She could have stayed with other relatives, or even I could have just made a decision to ask her to wash her hands a lot and limit cuddle time. As it was I caught her on several occasions blowing her nose with one hand with baby in other!

I realise I could be overreacting due to my own snottiness (and inability to take any decent cold remedies due to breast feeding!). I know all babies have to have colds at some point so AIBU?

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 13/04/2011 11:47

You know you are TBH. As you've said yourself, babies have to have colds at some point, you may as well start now.
Is this your first?

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flipper99 · 13/04/2011 11:52

Yes, first baby and first cold! I just feel sorry for him (yes and for myself...)

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TattyDevine · 13/04/2011 11:53

Are you serious?

The minute they start any kind of day care, they will have a cold one after the other for about, well, 18 years. Then they move out and its not your problem anymore.

So till then...suck it up cupcake.

YABU

TattyDevine · 13/04/2011 11:57

Oh its your first baby sorry sorry - yes it is normal to want to confine to the pit of hell that person which gave your PFB its very first cold. YANBU!

SingingSands · 13/04/2011 11:58

Oh dear, think you are overreacting! It's just a cold, not the black plague. Feel sad that you would have limited your mum's "cuddle time".

Yes, your baby will be unsettled for a couple of days but that's all, they bounce back really quickly. And I think its safe for you to take patacetamol, that might help you feel a bit better too.

dinkystinky · 13/04/2011 11:59

YABU -he'd have got a cold eventually. DS2 got his first cold at 3 weeks - from his big brother... Its lovely your mum could make it - my crazy mother initially refused to come visit DS1 after he was born as she had a cold, when she relented she refused to hold him to avoid giving him germs. Looney if well meaning lady.

Stock up on vitamin c and zinc and drink lots of fluids and your cold will shift shortly. Snufflebabe on baby's chest and squidgee snot sucker thing will help baby - as will lots of time in the bathroom in bouncer while you're having a hot steamy shower.

Changing2011 · 13/04/2011 12:00

YABU and VERY PFB.

dearyme · 13/04/2011 12:13

gawd help us from over protective mothers lol

Loonytoonie · 13/04/2011 12:19

I reckon you already know you're being a BU, but you're forgiven .
Most of us forget how grim a common cold can make us feel and it's easy to not consider how hard it is looking after a little one with a cold too! You're Mum just wanted cuddles. If that's her only crime, then you can live with that.

You can take paracetamol (helps loads) and you can drink buckets and bucket of a) fresh lemon and honey mixed with hot water (yum) and b) hot ribena (yum yum). Go get some olbas oil and sprinkle it on some hankies and keep them nearby.

Eat chocolate, lots and watch something to make you laugh. Enjoy your baby .

Huffythetantrumslayer · 13/04/2011 12:53

Loving Tattydevine's about face there!

einstein1 · 13/04/2011 12:54

YABU.

VinegarTits · 13/04/2011 12:56

should have made the old bint sleep in the shed

JohnStuartMills · 13/04/2011 15:02

Hand hygiene is very important though. Should not blow into hand.

GiddyPickle · 13/04/2011 15:25

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Morebounceperounce · 13/04/2011 16:21

YANBU as when my DD (then 7 weeks) and I had a horrible cold back in January, I was calling for the vet to come and shoot me I felt so grim. And I was down at my parents so was doing the whole dying swan act all over the place while they helped to look after DD (usually a stoic when ill, honest).

Logically, I completely agree with the other posters in saying it has to happen etc, as an emotional first timer, agree with you completely!

saffy85 · 13/04/2011 16:25

YA a bit BU. I felt exactly the same though when my then 3 month old DD got her first cold from my nephew just in time for her first christmas. It only lasted about 5 days but seemed to go on forever.

The only thing that made me feel a leetle bit better (I caught it too) was that FIL got it while he and MIL were staying for chirstmas. The reason this cheered me up no end was because he had moaned constantly about the noise from crying and grizzling DD, the smell of vomit (she couldn't keep alot of her feeds down), the house being a tip and DD waking in the night and being hard to settle. It did feel a bit like karma....

Gracie123 · 13/04/2011 16:26

Eat raw garlic, will help you and a BFing baby.

Just swallow a clove morning and night, whole. If you cant manage that, slice it on some toast with cheese (yummy). You'll get over the cold faster.

Also, you could chop up a raw onion and leave it in a bowl next to her bed. The same fumes that sting your eyes will clear her nose through the night. It's much gentler than vicks and can be used from birth.

Hope you feel better soon. Sick babies are never fun

Gracie123 · 13/04/2011 16:28

vinegartits you are fast becoming one of my favourite MNers!

Insomnia11 · 13/04/2011 16:28

I think granny could have been a bit more careful not to pass her cold on but it would have been OTT to ask her to stay somewhere else!

diddl · 13/04/2011 16:34

Well I do think she could have taken more care tbh.

And if she had the cold when she arrived, why didn´t you keep baby away as much as possible-and take care yourself?

When someone has a cold, it´s not a given that they will spread it to others.

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flipper99 · 13/04/2011 17:01

Ok, have been browsing the current pfb moments and maybe should have posted there instead...

All advice gratefully received, one other thing that hadn't occurred to me about parenthood was having to learn to be a nurse too

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Flowerpotmummy · 13/04/2011 18:13

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KaraStarbuckThrace · 13/04/2011 18:18

YABU - babies can get up to 20 colds in their first year! No guarantee that you and lo caught it from Granny as colds can incubate for some time before rearing their ugly heads!

Poor you anyway, it is not nice. Stick some vapour rub on your chest, and try using a humidifier with a few drops of baby Olbus oil for the baby. And honey and lemon for you! As far as I am aware it is just decongestants you need to avoid when bfing.
Hope you both feel better soon!

nectarina · 14/04/2011 13:17

I think its rude when people don't warn you in advance of an illness. My sister gave me d/v just before an important photo shoot that i had to cancel.

Megatron · 14/04/2011 13:21

YABU but I was exactly the same with my PFB.

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