DS's birthday and family
TiredOfBeingTolerant · 12/04/2011 18:04
DS has a birthday on Friday and I have received cards today from my father and siblings for DS.
However, only a couple of months ago father and siblings fell out with me over something very trivial. They didn't inform me they had fallen out with me, but they have stopped returning calls, won't talk to me etc. I have since been very ill in hospital, my father and siblings were informed but didn't contact me or my children to see how any of us were.
My DS is only young and has no real concept of birthdays, but I am really angry that these family members seemingly didn't care what happened to DS a few weeks ago but are now sending cards.
I have also been informed by a good friend that these family members have been saying very unsavoury things about us (even whilst I was very ill) on social networking sites.
Would I be acting unreasonably by sending the cards back? Im not well enough for confronting their behaviour directly (as I am sure I will be met with aggression or they will twist everything round as my fault). I want to use this as a sounding board for what I should do as I can't quite make up my mind just yet.
FWIW I have changed names and some details as some of this could get specific and I don't want to be recognised.
justpaddling · 12/04/2011 18:27
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TiredOfBeingTolerant · 12/04/2011 18:33
Fair enough, I would be unreasonable to return them.
I just feel very aggrieved given the circumstances. But I suppose that is my issue.
Molly - no unfortunately I don't feel they are trying to build bridges. DS has been staying with various friends and family whilst I was ill, they didn't contact to check on him then, and they are still refusing calls etc.
TiredOfBeingTolerant · 12/04/2011 18:37
Soup dragon - I try not to post about petty things, but their lack of contact during a very scary time for me was extremely hurtful.
I was very surprised that not one of them had been in touch and have been deeply confused about the existing family relations since. Hence the posting, like I said in the OP I wanted advice on the best way to deal with it as I am aware my upset is clouding my usual responses.
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