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Not to want my nephews to run around naked on holiday?......

45 replies

Gingefringe · 12/04/2011 16:00

We are shortly to go on a family holiday to Spain with the PIL and BIL and family. They have 6 year old twin DS. We go to a villa which has a pool and have been going there for past few years and generally have a lovely holiday. However, one thing niggles me....
My nephews wear those all in one swim suits when they're out by the pool, but once they're out of the pool/sun they strip off and run around naked, often for the rest of the day/evening while we're in the villa.
AIBU in expecting my SIL to put a pair of pants on them at least or should I think that young boys running around naked, eating at the dining table naked, sitting spread-eagled on the sofa watching telly naked and generally playing with their willies all day is charming? My 15 year old DD doesn't think so and my own two DS of similar ages never felt the need to do this.
I'm just hoping that this year because they're a bit older they will want to cover up of their own accord.
I don't really want to make a big deal of it in case we spoil the holiday but wonder what your thoughts are?
My SiL doesn't pull her weight on the self-catering side either but this is another subject .. ah.... family holidays Hmm

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cyrilsneer · 12/04/2011 16:23

Snorted and spilt my tea BarbaraBar!

EEEEW! Gingefringe Agree that it might be worth having a quiet word with your MIL. Hopefully she will agree with you and deal with your SIL diplomatically?

MrSpoc · 12/04/2011 16:23

Get a grip this is what young kids do. (running around naked) there is nothing wrong with it. May be you have the problem in thinking them being naked is wrong!!

But playing with your todger should be banned and I always tell my boy of 2.5yrs that he should leave his alone or it will fall off.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 12/04/2011 16:26

playing with their todger is normal and natural Hmm

yy pants on inside, merely because of hygiene

MadamDeathstare · 12/04/2011 16:27

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MrSpoc · 12/04/2011 16:27

BoysAreLikeDogs - i agree and i do it alot but when i was young i got my forskin stick when i was playing and got rushed to hospital. Would not like my boy's to go through it.

dickcheeseandthecrackers · 12/04/2011 16:28

Yes agree with being free to be nude whilst on the run outside. My dd (4) loves it. But any food, watching tv or inside stuff has to have knickers on. Minimum.

NettoSuperstar · 12/04/2011 16:30

Pants on inside.
I wouldn't want to eat food touched by a willy hand

LIZS · 12/04/2011 16:30

You are entitled to an opinion but why go on holiday together if such details cause angst Hmm

frantic51 · 12/04/2011 16:30

Age 6 running around naked = fine.

Naked at the table = not fine

I'm with Gwendoline here shorts and t-shirts at the dinner table! [prim mama emoticon]

MrSpoc · 12/04/2011 16:32

oh frantic51 t-shirts at the table is going too far Grin

ThingOne · 12/04/2011 16:33

Pants in the house is our rule. The thought of sofa skidmarks turns my stomach.

Six is definitely old enough to know you don't play with your willy in public.

saffy85 · 12/04/2011 16:34

YANBU. Running round outside in the nuddy aged 6 is fine imo, not a problem. Sitting at the table for dinner and watching t.v naked is not fine. Playing with their willies is ofcourse natural but they shouldnt be doing that in the company of others.

frantic51 · 12/04/2011 16:39

But, MrSpoc , if they don't have t-shirts on, where are they going to put their napkins?! Hmm Grin

MrSpoc · 12/04/2011 16:40

frantic51 - Napkins!!! do you mean servietts? We put them on our knee of course Grin

mitochondria · 12/04/2011 16:42

I saw the title and was going to say YABU, as running around naked outside is part of being a small boy (mine are 6 and 4). But I do make them put pants on when they come into the house, for all the reasons other people have mentioned (no bits at the dinner table, skidmarks on the sofa etc.)

Francagoestohollywood · 12/04/2011 16:43

Personally, it wouldn't really bother me.
I'd be more irritated by SIL not pulling her weight with the self- catering.

Ormirian · 12/04/2011 16:44

Nudity isn't a problem for 6yr olds IMO. The real issue is teaching them about boundaries and one of those is not fiddling with their genitals in public!

i think you might have to wait a few years more for them to start being concerned with privacy. it kicked in about 7 or 8 with mine.

BendyBob · 12/04/2011 16:45

Yadnbu.

Maybe they're trying to cut down on the packing and holiday washing. Actually come to think of it maybe they're onto something...

MrsBananaGrabber · 12/04/2011 16:47

Outside fine, inside pants on. Lets face it, all males would be willy fiddling at the dinner table if we didn't tell them. Grin

frantic51 · 12/04/2011 16:48

No, MrSpoc , I mean napkins!! Grin I wouldn't ever put a napkin on their knee until about 9/10 years old, because it just gives them plenty of excuses to keep ducking under the table to retrieve them whenever they fall off! Wink

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