To ask how many friends of the oppossite sex you have?

[nailak]

to those of you which are sahms how many men do you find in your friendship circles?

is it different to those who work?

I'd say 3 that I've been friends with for many years- one I worked quite closely with for several years, one who has been a friend of DH for about 20 years, and one who is married to my closest friend. Pre-children, we'd go out as a group quite often (along with ex-colleague's wife, who is also a good friend). Other male friends tend to be either DH's schoolfriends or partners of my female friends.

I am a SAHM now but the close group of friends has been basically the same since I worked.

It's about even for me, though most of my male friends are also my husband's friends.

Surely working relationships aren't actual friendships though? More aquaintances?

as many as i want to have!!

ps. i haven't had sex or bared my breasts to them ALL!!

I'm a student, and I think I have a fifty/fifty divide. I have more male friends from before university, but my five closest friends, who I couldn't live without, are all male.

None -boys smell

It was about 50/50 for me until I had dcs. Now I am a SAHM I have more female friends than male, simply because there are more mums at children's groups and school than men. I also feel more comfortable inviting a Mum for coffee or lunch than someone else's husband or partner.

@ raffle

I have never counted...but I have to be honest... I would not be surprised if many of them would like to make love to me..lmao

I have lots of male friends, whom I've known since high school/university. Some friendships aren't as close as they used to be, mostly because it is more difficult to spend time together because of work/children/life getting in the way.
But it is more or less the same with female friends. Sadly adult life doesn't leave much time to cultivate friendships.

Well work people are work-friends rather than friend-friends for me. Close colleagues but nonetheless they drift away when jobs move and change, and all that happens is that you catch up with them for lunch now and again. My work is quite male-dominated, so I tend to have more male work-friends female work-friends. If that makes sense.

In terms of friend-friends, that tends to be roughly equal in terms of gender. Which is as it should be, I think.

I've always made it a point of principle to be welcoming and friendly to DH's friends to the point where they are my friends as well but I've always kept a little distance because I want him to have the space to enjoy his own friends without me, just as he allows me my own space to enjoy my friends without him. Not always, but sometimes.

I have lots of male friends in my group, but very few - actually probably none - who I'd meet up with one on one.

It used to be different (at uni and early 20s) but since everyone's coupled up it somehow seems more usual for "the girls" or "the boys" to meet up, or everyone all together. Shame really.

Et tu OP?

How many are you allowed to have? A big fat 0 is my guess.

I have several male friends in my friendship circle however I am mostly friends of them and their wives.

youare i have already answered your question, i have one male friend who is the dh of my best friend, and i have 3 or 4 other friends that i have met throuh school drop offs, my circle of friends is not that enormous tbh, althouh there are obviously other males who i know but wouldnt consider myslef friends includin others friends husbands who i mite see not and aain

i was wonderin about other sahms who may have moved to a new area etc how they actually meet male friends and it seems most meet them either throuh dhs or are friends from previously.

as others have said they are friends with couples and i fall under that cateory too

I have 2 really close male friends (who are now dh's friends as well) plus quite a few male friends from University who I don't keep in regulart contact with but when we do meet up it is as if we last saw each other a few days ago.

I have similar number of female friends.

To be honest apart from 3 or 4 female friends who I know would do anything for me if there was a crisis, I prefer male friendships. There is no agro if you don't phone, forget birthdays, christmas cards etc etc we just enjoy each others company when we do get to meet up.