To get playdates to bring their own food

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Or just make them a sandwich.

DS1 has two friends round for a sleepover. For dinner I did roast chicken, chipolata, roast potatoes, carrots, sweetcorn. Apparently one had chicken last night and therefore says he cannot eat the same meal two nights running. The other ate a bit of chicken but the rest was left untouched. For pud we had apple pie and custard which one refused on the grounds that he doesnt like pies although admitted he has never eaten one (he is 10 by the way) and the other had one mouthful and refused the rest.

Why the frigging heck do parents allow their kids to be so fussy. Its bloody rude, annoying, wasteful and irritating to be met with 'I dont like it .......'.

My two ds's are quite happy to tuck into a decent meal so dont see why we should eat from an extremely limited range to accommodate a fussy eater. Next time they come they can either bring their own food or make do with bread and butter.

give them bread and butter if they won't eat what's put in front of them

Their parents probably don't allow them to be so fussy, but they weren'tthere were they?

Stick them under the stairs and let em starve

Seriously though i've never understood why people pander to fussy eaters. Eat or go hungry are the only options in this house.

Always think they eat what's provided or go hungry! However, after numerous times of throwing lovely roast dinners away, now usually just give them fish fingers, jacket potatoes etc-much less effort and no waste :o

yes,i have seen this A LOT.

fussy kids,and worse,parents pandering to them

i cannot remember being offered alternatives to food i didnt like when young.....it was eat it. there was nothing else

Fussy eaters are more annoying the older they get! It sound like you cooked a lovely meal. I however have given up and now
Chips, Nuggets and Beans or a Pizza are always top of the list when the boys have mates over as its always a winner.
And yes I know its not the healthiest option but hey guess what I dont care they come they eat they dont moan problem solved!

What's the big deal with you giving them bread and butter?

DS aged 5 is fussy and believe me we would rather that he wasn't and I am well aware that other people find it annoying. I am working on broadening his taste buds so out of that meal he would eat roast potatoes, sweetcorn and a tiny bit of chicken if forced. I have taught him to say that he is not hungry if offered something he doesn't eat, but I guess he would struggle to do that in a sleepover situation.

But not sure why you are taking it so personally, just offer bread and butter as an alternative, DS would be delighted with that.

yeah parents help make most fussy eaters by enabling them

My dad used to get pizza bases and let us make our own toppings, that was fun and everyone got what they liked.

I HATE it when people won't eat similar things two days in a row, especially when they throw something away because they "don't fancy it". Children should eat what they are given, especially in someone else's house. It sounds like you made a lovely meal and i'm glad to hear that your children aren't fussy.

It would be better if they declined what was on offer rather than accepting it then picking at it.

Last week ds2 had a friend over so I did fish fingers, baked beans and egg on toast. Odd combination I know but I had no food in. The child accepted it and even confirmed that he liked baked beans. What did he eat, one fish finger and left all the rest.

and yes I have a fussy eater amongst 4 - he gets the same as the others and tough if he doesn't eat it - but we don't argue about it

actually we bloody do - a lot - I sometimes absolutely lose it at him - but there's no way of forcing him to eat stuff he has decided not to - the funny thing is that he wolves down stuff like curry, chilli and sushi but will turn his nose up at chips - most annoying

My DS used to be a nightmare - but 2 kids refusing to eat a roast chicken dinner / apple pie combo is almost unbelievable.

I would not be happy if he ever did that!

(He won't eat broccoli - he just will not) Even with threats of no X-Box for a week

Why worry, it's just for a night. Let them starve or live on bread, butter and bananas.
My teenagers live on junk which they purchase for themselves for sleepovers, returning home to my free-range chicken and home-grown steamed veg
They seem fine.

Tell their mother your cooker is being mended so the children will be having sandwiches & cereal for their tea.

Sleepover food round here is usually Pizza's, chips/potato wedges, sausages, dips and a selection of bits, fruit salad,cakes and sweets for pudding. The food on offer is part of the fun of a sleepover, I am usually given a list!!

If dd aged 4 does not eat her dinner, I refuse to make another, she gets crumpetes or toast (she likes toast a lot) so she does not get up half the night as she is hungry. During the day if she does not eat lunch i dont give her treats, she eats fruit or toast or dried cereal.

I usually warn people that DD2 might be fussy (she rarely is, and even eats stuff out I know she hates). However if they won't eat let them be hungry?

But I'd be unlikely to give Roast Chicken as sleepover food, usually Pizza (maybe make their own) or other easy junk food. I do ask about what they eat first to check (just as with adult guests).

But not eating Chicken because they had chicken the night before, or they don't eat pie; well they'd just miss out and probably miss out on snacks/midnight feast later.

Actually when having adult and children guests alike I will ask in advance to see if there is anything they dislike.

You'd be amazed how many grown ups have an aversion to mushrooms, which is annoying as chicken in mushroom sauce is one of my dinner party stalwarts.

I'd hate to think of an adult forcing something down that they hate - I'm not keen on cooked carrots but can eat a couple to pass myself, once was given steak and kidney pie at an eldery neighbours when a teen, it nearly killed me to mouth some down, but I had to to be polite as she was a lovely lady.

So why not just check what the children will eat. Pizza seems to be universal and if you add some other bits and pieces then no child would go hungry.