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To want to go on holiday when we agreed?

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JJBSpots · 11/04/2011 12:13

A friend and I have booked a weekend away for us and our 5 assorted children. Plan was to leave mid afternoon on the Friday, mosey on down to the campsite in a leisurely fashion and arrive in time for tea and get things sorted before bed time, giving us 2 full days and three nights on our holiday, coming home on Monday morning.

This happens to be on the Royal Wedding weekend and on the Friday there is a street party 2-7.30pm. Her eldest dd really wants to go now that the whole school is talking about it. I can understand that it is quite attractive for a 5 yr old to go to, there are lots of fun activites and if it was any other weekend I am sure that we wouldn?t hesitate to go.

My friend has suggested that we all go to the street party and just leave the next morning instead. I think it would be a bit of a shame to miss out on start of the holiday (my kids are desperate to go away! Have shown no inclination whatsoever towards Royal Wedding event although I am sure they would enjoy it once they get there)

Would I be unreasonable to suggest a compromise in that we leave at about 6 and drive to the campsite then? Its just over 2 hours away. I think that if we leave on Saturday morning, we wouldn?t get there until 11 at least and it would feel like a very brief stay indeed. I think that if I said we?ll go on ahead without you and you can come down on the Sat, my friend might feel I was pressurising her into going on Friday and I don?t want to make her feel like that.

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FabbyChic · 11/04/2011 12:16

Propose the 6pm if she disagrees then say how about you go down there on your own and she meets you the next morning there, giving you time to settle in so when she arrives you can just go out and do things thus not wasting any time.

discobeaver · 11/04/2011 12:19

Understand re the pressurising her to leave on Fri, but she's pressing you to leave on Sat?

I would dfinitely leave on Fri at 6ish, otherwise you won't really feel like you've had a break. After all, you did originally agree Friday afternoon, so you are compromising already.

needafootmassage · 11/04/2011 12:21

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MrSpoc · 11/04/2011 12:24

Why dont you just leave 6.00am on Saturday arriving for about 8.00am and still having the whole day. Would this be a good compromise?

Or just go on your own and get friend to come the next day.

Magicjamas · 11/04/2011 12:26

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pingu2209 · 11/04/2011 12:35

Why can't you leave at 8 on the Friday night? That way her dd gets to go to the whole Royal wedding street party.

I appreciate your dc are most likely very young and this is far later than their bedtime, let alone trying to get them in to bed when you get there.

However, you can pack the cars up during the afternoon and put them in their pyjamas before getting in the car. You then would get there about 10pm but they would most likley sleep a lot of the journey and you could lift them into bed.

One night won't hurt the children and she is clearly a good friend if you are off on holiday together. The children may be a little grotty the next day but at least you will have the whole of the next day.

FabbyChic · 11/04/2011 12:56

If you go late Friday you lose Friday night other than to sleep, surely if you got there Friday afternoon that would still leave you with stuff you can do Friday evening, personally I'd not want to travel later afternoon, I like to be at the place as soon as I can get in it.

MorticiaAddams · 11/04/2011 13:09

I don't blame them for wanting to attend the street party but I would suggest going down separately.

When you say campsite do you mean you will actually be camping or staying in a caravan? If you are staying in a tent then you would have to put it up in the dark if you went after the party.

She doesn't have to feel pressured, just say your kids want to go on Friday and you'll meet them there.

IloveJudgeJudy · 11/04/2011 13:33

I would suggest you go down separately. I wouldn't want to get to the site at 8ish and then have to erect tent, sort it out, etc. I can just envisage young, hungry, tired DC with you trying to cope. Nightmare.

Lucyinthepie · 11/04/2011 14:16

If you and your children want to go to the party then go. If not, and your children can't wait to get to the campsite, just tell your friend you'll meet her there when she arrives on Saturday, and stick to your original plans. You're not joined a the hip. I don't see why she should be put out about it. Everyone gets to do what they want to do.

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JJBSpots · 12/04/2011 12:01

Thanks for opinions. It's a caravan site so no need to sort a tent out (thanks goodness!) Think I will talk to my kids and see how they feel, if they want to go to the party then I will say to my friend that we are going to drive down on the Friday night afterwards - then they can decide if they want to come at that point or whether they would like to leave it til Sat am. If my tiddlies aren't bothered by the party then we'll be sticking to plan A and go down on Friday afternoon.

I am so excited about going, it's really rather silly but doing something a bit out of the ordinary for a change is going to be briliant fun!

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chicletteeth · 12/04/2011 12:53

Just go earlier with your children and let her arrive that evening or the next day with hers

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