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Parents evening. Should she be telling me this!?

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FilerDad · 10/04/2011 22:47

I was attending parents evening for DD (reception) without my wife (She had to work) And DD teacher started talking to me about more personal things (including that she was going to be going on a night out the following Friday evening because she'd been single too long) Anyway, she's always very reserved with me when I'm around my wife (though she is friendly) but she kept touching my hand over the table and our appointment time went well over the 15 minutes everyone else had (she had also asked to swap my time to the very end, around 7, AFTER the reply card was marked that only I would be attending. Long story short, she basically gave my kid a good review, and ended up giving me her PERSONAL mobile number for if I wanted to speak any more on the matter. I carefully probed the other parents the enxt day and nobody mentioned any giving of numbers. Anyway, she's a very attractive younger teacher but for some reason (even though I know I've done nothing wrong) feel terribly guilty about the whole thing and havent told my wife a lot of the details (I said it went along normally and didnt mention the number giving). So, long story short, AIBU to think this is a matter that I should escalate?

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pingu2209 · 10/04/2011 23:10

Your wife may never know. You can select to follow up the offer or not. If you do, your wife may still never know.

Family life is mundane on all sorts of levels, and most husbands and wives want a bit of excitment to feel alive, desirable and wanted. So when it lands in our laps it is extremely tempting.

However, a word to the wise. Before you are flattered into phoning up the 'very attractive young single teacher', look around at your family and your children. You would not only be cheating on your wife, you will cheating on your family unit, which includes your children.

What you could lose is the warmth of knowing you will see your children at the start and end to each day. You will have the guilt of seeing your children's pain and watch them as they struggle through the rest of their childhood without a secure and stable family to give them strong foundations for their adulthood.

NonnoMum · 10/04/2011 23:15

Ask your DC to write in their news,

"Daddy got a text from Ms Larry. She says she thinks about him while she wees in the barf. Oh, and we had ice lollies cos it was hot today."

Either a wind up. Or you need to report.

Badgerwife · 10/04/2011 23:16

YABU I don't understand why you didn't give her back the bit of paper with her mobile number on and said thanks but no thanks I'm happily married? She is being highly unprofessional, but you need to show some balls and tell her in no uncertain terms that you don't want any texts from her and you're not interested. This teacher is being totally inappropriate, why the hell did you put her number on your phone? That sounds shifty to me and I feel sorry for your poor wife. I think your DW would be unreasonable to loose it too much with the teacher (who is not worth her time) but completely within her right to be angry with you for not nipping it in the bud

fit2drop · 10/04/2011 23:19

She text you, ? You must have given her your mobile number. Why would you do that if you felt uncomfortable?

You sir are a bullshitter, I am something of a bullshitter too but occassionally I like to listen to an expert so please do carry on .

ilovesooty · 10/04/2011 23:27

Got to be a wind up, surely? If the poor OP felt so bemused why did he hand over his number and hide hers under a false name? And I can't imagine any teacher would be so stupid.

No...it's bullshit.

steps101 · 10/04/2011 23:29

0/10.

NoseyNooNoo · 10/04/2011 23:29

My very first

Katisha · 10/04/2011 23:34

WHY has "text" become past tense?
WHY isn't it "texted" any more?

But otherwsie, not very good wind-up. C minus.

Katisha · 10/04/2011 23:36

I mean, I know it used to be a noun. But now it's a verb surely we can have it the normal past tense usage?

AgentZigzag · 10/04/2011 23:36

Come now steps101, the weeing in the bath gem was at least deserving of a gold star

animula · 10/04/2011 23:40

I don't know ...

Personally, I feel FillerDad was a little premature with the release of the weeing info.

Perhaps I'm getting a bit picky about these things, but it would have gained in dramatic intensity if s/he had withheld that for a few more posts.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 10/04/2011 23:43

Katisha. Never mind predatory bath weeing teachers, what about the grammar.

Cloudbase · 10/04/2011 23:44

'I just know my wife would blow this way out of proportion'. I can't imagine why, what with all the surruptitious number swapping and bathtime texts.
You sound like a charmer. Here, have a to go with your

NonnoMum · 10/04/2011 23:45

What about the grammar, indeed? Surely you missed a question mark, EvenLess? Tut tut.

AgentZigzag · 10/04/2011 23:52

mmm mmm, yes animula, I see your point.

Perhaps a few 'could achieve more if he would only apply himself' on his school reports would have encouraged preparation when posting shit in AIBU?

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