Re feeding your second child

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DC1 = I was very much virgin gut, no sugar, no crap however as he has got older the chocolate biscuits, carton of apple juice etc all normal picnic treats etc have appeared on the menu. I don't see it as an issue as its all part of a balanced diet HOWEVER DS2 who is 15months is seeing all this and as we did BLW, helps himslef to it all. He is eating things which had DS1 eaten at that age I would have cried, nothing that bad but today he drunk a carton or pure apple juice in 10secs flat and I did think god this teeth, but major tantrum when offered his water cup instead.
WDYT??

DS at 22 months is now no longer fob-off-able when dd has an ice cream. She used to be able to walk behind the buggy eating an ice lolly or something, but he can now detect the sound of something being unwrapped and knows he's missing out.

Is juice in a carton really bad? Neither of them have it often, but we're getting through a party backlog at the moment.

DD was 3 before she had ice lollies/ice cream and juice on a regular basis.

DS1 didn't have any chocolate until around 2 (don't get the white chocolate thing at all though - surely as it's got more sugar in it it's unhealthier?). Mainly home cooked and some of it was organic. Totally unfussy eater, I have yet to find anything he won't eat.

DS2 only 12 weeks so still ebf but I intend to be as strict as I can get away with. Please tell me it's not going to be a dismal failure!?

Fruit juice occasionally isn't that bad IMHO, I know it's bad for teeth if they have it a lot but it's got a few vitamins and other good things in it .

I've been out with some girlfriends this afternoon and rang home to check that the DC's were ok. DH proudly told me that DS2, age 12 months had polished off a complete turkey twizzler monstrosity and a whole potato waffle at MIL's house. Had it been DS1 I'd have had a huge tantrum screaming at DH for being so careless about what he'd given a 1 year old to eat, how terrible etc etc. However, being a 3rd child my only response was "perhaps he'll be full enough to actually sleep tonight". Actually, I've weaned him pretty much the same as the other 2 but slightly less anally and he's showing signs of being far more adventurous than either of them have ever been.

ha ha ha - DC3's first food was a crust of pizza in Pizza Express, at 5.5m

Love this one.

Ds1 all Annabel Karmel organic veg, puréed in ice cube trays.

Ds2 half home cooked purées, some organic jars.

Ds3 loads of jars and puréed fish fingers and chips!

So normal, tv programmes the same!

ha! don't even get started on tv programmes... ds didn't watch any tv until about 2 years old (I was 8 months pg and sooo tired). DD watches far too much now, I remember MIL laughing as dd strained to watch the tv while bfing (at about 4 months) and dd just spent a 9 hour car journey watching Toy Story 1 2 and 3 back to back. She's 15 mos

Oh, yes. DD was allowed a carefully rationed episode of 'In the Night Garden' from about 18 months (when I was pregnant and it was winter). DS at less than 2 years old can sing all the CBeeBies theme tunes and spot Bob the Builder at 20 paces .

Yes, things are rather different second time around!

DS2 has definitely had things which DS1 didn't at the same age. However, DS1 LOVES it when he has things which I say DS2 can't (e.g- honey). He's forever saying DS2 can't have this and that because he's "tooooo smaaaall"!

We didn't 'decide' to BLW ds2 - he just refused to eat purees and stuff, just wanted to help himself to what his 6yo bro was having. Made my life easier too, so why not

DS1 "weaned" ds2 with a chocolate icecream

DS2 has trouble with the concept of food possibly belonging to other people. He does the labrador thing and has managed to snag pretty much everything.

Stuff that would definitely have choked DS1 just slides right down, and if it doesn't go down the first time, he regurgitates it and chews it some more.

That baby can hear a sweet wrapper through three walls.

DS1: I cook from scratch, but that's mainly due to a medical condition of mine. Did BLW mixed with gloopy normal foods (that he fed to himself with much fun and mess) cause I always said I'd never feed him anything I wouldn't eat myself. He also managed to eat a fly (spat out the legs, the bit I saw) by 8 months, at which point I figured he'd probably ingest worse than a bit of sugar in his life. Have given a mix of things since then (allergies permitting), figure he may as well learn sensible balanced eating early on. He still had a picky eating phase though.

DS2: Good luck to him or her given how our first was dragged up rather than raised! ;) :D

That's pretty standard for a second child.

I've decided to skip the DC1 approach and treat DD like a DC2. Pureeing turned out to be boring after about a week, so now it's jars and finger food all the way with a bit of ice cream, chocolate and tea added for good measure. I thought that after 6 months anything except salt, honey and whole nuts is ok.

Ds2 is pretty much the same as ds1 tbh. My ideas about healthy food haven't changed and ds1 only rarely has chocolate/crisps/ice cream etc :) in fact ds2 hasn't had jarred food whereas ds1 had the odd one if we were away somewhere. If you were just stressed about it first time round and now it doesn't bother you then fair enough.

Don't understand the argument about it being unfair to younger ones not to get something when the older one has it. There are other things that people are happy enough to say no to - small toys, bigger slides and climbing frames. What's the big deal about saying 'when you're a bit older' with food too?

Also don't understand the whole White chocolate bring better for babies thing either. It's full of sugar.

? My DD1 since weaning only drinks apple juice (half juice, half water). The dentist says this absolutely fine and indeed her teeth are fine.

Really I think you need to relax a bit. Obv don't give your children sweets and choc every day. Avoid fizzy drinks. But watered down juice and a biscuit a day are not going to do any damage!

Think of what we all ate in the 70s! (Angel delight, sweets, fizzy pop, squash so laden with tartrazine it gave you an instant asthma attack). And I have no fillings whatsoever.

have you never heard that usually a family's 3rd child weans himself/herself onto solids by crawling behind the other two and eating the crums?