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to dare tell the truth!!??!!

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Itberete · 10/04/2011 19:55

a 'friend' of my husbands slept with a guest on the night of our wedding, this man's girlfriend was in australia at the time.... i didnt want to involve myself so ignored it, until, the cheeky bastard sent me a message coming on to me!!! ..... talk about over stepping the mark, i am friends with his girlfriend, though only through other friendships.... it would apear he has done this before and they split years ago.... i was going to tell her as much as it pains me yet the boyfriend rang me and begged, he loves her, cant be without her etc..... so far i have said nothing, but on facebook on his girlfriends page they gush over how in love they are etc, and i just feel like she is being fooled and ive been taken for one! what do i do??? tell her? or forget it?!
drama drama lol...

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emsyj · 10/04/2011 20:02

I would only tell her if she was a very close friend. If she is more of a passing acquaintance then I would keep out of it. He possibly does this a lot and she may well know he is like this anyway.

But I would tell my husband....


GloriaSmut · 10/04/2011 20:03

What's "lol" got to do with this?


Itberete · 10/04/2011 20:05

oh my husband is well in the loop .... the lad in question actually told a few of his friends that i was going to 'grass' and they told my husband he should be having words!!! as he knows me better he did say, she will do her own thing... i just feel awful knowing :( he doesnt deserve such respect of his girlfriend!
maybes i just need to shove my head in the sand...
thanks x

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Itberete · 10/04/2011 20:06

the lol was for me gloriasmut not the situation....

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emsyj · 10/04/2011 20:08

Sorry, is your husband still friends with this guy? After he has made a pass at his wife? Very odd.

You move in very different circles from me, OP.


poopnscoop · 10/04/2011 20:08

Were she a good friend I would tell her. Were she an acquaintance I wouldn't tell her. I wouldn't want to socialise with this idiot schmuck, ever.


Itberete · 10/04/2011 20:09

no they are certainly not friends, they all work together though, which is different altogether!

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LadyBeatrixKiddo · 10/04/2011 20:14

I'd tell her.

(Maybe accidentally on purpose.)


Itberete · 10/04/2011 20:17

how on earth would i drop that in by accident???

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BlueAmy · 10/04/2011 20:20

I'd have to tell I think. The poor girlfriend is being made a fool of and everyone knows about it but her.


Itberete · 10/04/2011 20:22

thats my thoughts blueamy..... no idea how i would even start the conversation with her....

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PunkPixie · 10/04/2011 20:24

Yeah I'd tell her. My best friend was being cheated on and EVERYONE in our circle of friends knew about it. We were the ponly ones who had the balls to tell her and she was greatful that someone did because she was suspicious and thought she might be going a bit daft!


LadyBeatrixKiddo · 10/04/2011 20:25

Few drinks... few comments about how 'friendly' he is... maybe an 'I probably just read it wrong...' air?

Maybe she'll be perturbed enough to put two and two together? Especially as he's got form.

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