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To be in bed whilst a friend is over?

18 replies

GreatBallsOfFluff · 10/04/2011 15:51

Just a small bit of background first in that I am a single parent, I work full time and I don't have any help from family as they live far away. I have spent the last couple of weekends just ferrying DD(5) from club to club to party and event spent the whole of last weekend helping out with a dance show she was in (3 shows over the course of the weekend).

Yesterday after swimming lesson and dance lesson, we spent the whole afternoon doing stuff together such as a couple of hours at the park (I didn't just sit there, I was up on the slides with her and pushing her and half the kids in the park around on the roundabout etc. Then going to the penny arcade and well you get the general idea. I had set today aside for some housework and thought I would invite a friend of DD's round so that she had someone to play with. Said friend has been here since 1.30 and having done the essential housework, I really want to just chill out and go to bed for half an hour (am dropping friend back between 5 and half 5). I don't intend to sleep, just watch tv and have some peace and quiet but I can just imagine friend going home to her mum and saying GBofF junior's mum was in bed, and then the next thread title being "AIBU to be furious that this mum was in bed whilst DD was round playing".

Both girls are very sensible and less than a month from being 6 so generally just get on with their own thing anyway. So should I go up and indulge in some quiet time?

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BooyHoo · 10/04/2011 15:54

i understand your concern. how about telling the girls you are just going upstairs to read a book so that if the girl does tell her mum then she will add that you weren't sleeping jut reading for half an hour. it's not as if the girls will check if you actually are reading or not.

usualsuspect · 10/04/2011 15:54

I would

FriskyMare · 10/04/2011 15:56

Would not leave two 6 year olds out of earshot. Could you not read a book in garden/sitting room??

worraliberty · 10/04/2011 15:56

If you're sure you won't nod off to sleep I suppose it's ok?

Hatesponge · 10/04/2011 15:58

Agree with the reading suggestion, I've done something similar myself in the past. Alternatively could you not send DD and friend upstairs to play in her room so you can have a rest on the sofa/watch TV in peace? Or send them out into the garden as the weather's so nice (though this really only works if you don't have doors from lounge to garden)

any of those is fine imo. hope you get a bit of quiet time :)

StealthyKissBeartrayal · 10/04/2011 15:58

well I wouldn't go to bed TBH
Is there any reason why you can't jusy lounge on the sofa?

Bluebell99 · 10/04/2011 15:58

Sorry, but I wouldn't be happy if my dd was at a friends and the mum went to bed! At under 6 they need some supervision.

usualsuspect · 10/04/2011 15:59

I would lay on the bed

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GreatBallsOfFluff · 10/04/2011 16:00

Good idea BooyHoo might do that.

No wouldn't fall asleep worraliberty, am too 'awake' for that.

I could do FriskyMare, but they're in and out making noise all the time.

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Curiousmama · 10/04/2011 16:01

Can't you wait until dd is in bed to rest?

CheerfulYank · 10/04/2011 16:01

I don't think it's a big deal, personally.

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GreatBallsOfFluff · 10/04/2011 16:01

Fair enough Bluebell99, that's why I posted just to see what other people thought if their own children were here

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NestaFiesta · 10/04/2011 16:05

YABU. I can see why you're tired and you do sound very hardworking, but if the girls are only a month from being six it means they are five and I wouldn't leave my own child or soembody else's out of eyesight and earshot completely. I would also be worried if my DC came back from playing at soemone else's house to hear the Mum was in bed.

Totally understand your exhaustion, but as others have said, just be exhausted on the sofa so at least you're in the thick of it all. It's very nice of you to have her friend over when you are so tired by the way. I wouldn't be as nice as that!

compo · 10/04/2011 16:10

I'd just watch trashy tv until bedtime , then go to bed when dd is in bed

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GreatBallsOfFluff · 10/04/2011 16:11

Thanks everyone. I realise it's probably not the best thing to do so shall go and chill on the sofa, and sorry I know it's not the most exciting AIBU thread.

curiousmama after I have done tea, bathed DD, washed up, read her a story, I shall then be doing the ironing as the weekly wash is out on the line at the moment drying ....

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Curiousmama · 10/04/2011 16:13

Well hopefully you'll get an early night after all that ironing?

hairylights · 10/04/2011 16:26

Your DD is only five. Don't leave them unsupervised.

StealthyKissBeartrayal · 10/04/2011 16:28

Your DD is only five. Don't iron.

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