I've always been told girls are worse then boys when it comes to bullying etc, but from my experience so far boys are far worse

[carriedababi]

Yesterday at a country park playground a little boy who looked about five was blocking the bottom of the slide for ages
no parents to be seen
then after blocking the slide for about 10-15 mins he said to this boy that was waiting at the top of the slide
"don't you dare come down the slide, or I will crack your skull"

I find boys more aggressive with their bullying its the sniping with girls but it gets much worse as they get to teenagers they can me downright nasty buggers believe me.

the bullying i have encountered with my own dc and their friends is as exactly as everyone says

the girls are 14 and 16 and they fare quite well,no bullying as such with them,but my god,some of the stuff their friends have gone through is horrific!! and facebook,dear lord,its bad!!!

boys are def more physical. but off playing again within an hour

i wouldnt say girls are more bitchy,but i woukld agree that they seem to thrive on the drama of it all. especially older girls.

Having one of each, I find boys explode, confront and then are friends again in minutes. Girls seem to hold grudges for what feels like years. DD's class are having a horrific time due to a girl who instigates the trouble and plays the "I'm the victim" card.

Both are as bad as one another

is she on 'formspring'?? its vicious

Children can be taught to behave in a very nice manner. Boys and girls. I see it at ds' school, they do 'circle time' every week and it works.

Little boy in op sounds he was being aggressive not bullying which is sustained. Still, not nice.

I echo what has been said upthread; boys can be more violent/threatening in the moment, girls sustain campaigns of bullying and hold grudges. There are always exceptions, but generally this is how you'll find it. Unfortunately it does tend to divide down the lines of boys physically bullying and girls emotionally bullying.

As I said, I think there are exceptions. Although that's not really sustained (it is emotional though).

I think you're right, but I think we're also looking at this differently. With boys, it will be a collective series of "you're gay" insults, but with girls, it's generally one incident that kicks it off and it will be all leading from that. I also think it comes from different places. For boys, it's about looking 'hard', but for girls, it seems to be about righting a perceived wrong.

These are horrible stereotypes, but they are also horribly true in many cases.

Boys and girls can both bully and exclude. My children are younger and all the other ones I know are well-behaved nice to eachother. But I remember school and yes boys can be pretty bad too.

Yes, they should be addressed. I do think so-called anti-bullying policies by school are way below par in many areas. I don't really agree about the 'commonness' of the bullying between sexes, but I think we disagree on this because of personal experience/insight more than anything. There are exceptions to every rule!

Thank you stewieGriffinsMom I agree with all your posts. I am fed up with hearing statements like 'all girls are bitchy' . People who just trot out statements like this are perpetuating the problem. I know plenty og girls and women who aren't at all. Why can't we treat people as individuals and be positive about each other.

Conversely not all boys are horrors either. So many are polite etc

I would just like to add that my eldest son was bullied for 15 months by another boy. There was also an adult male who joined in. All the bullying was verbal, never physical.

I think boys are just as bad dp was bullied all through highschool constantly accused of having a hard on, teased about his clothes. He also had every single finger broken, he has a bad eye where a stone was thrown at it and was attacked verbally and physically everyday however being a boy his dad told him to man up and fight off the 6 boys.

DS age 5 has been being bullied by the 11yo boys in his school they were waiting everyday to call him smelly and by different names as it would upset him they were also pushing him in the mud and hitting him all sorted now. Boys are as bad.

crawling sorry to hear that. Hope you're husband and son are happier and strong now. It is hard to not let bullies take away self confidence.
marshaBrady I agree. There are plenty of nice boys around [and girls as well of course.]